This week I watched an impressive movie called Divergent, referring to being different than others. Divergent takes place in a world where people are divided into five distinct factions based on human virtues. Trish, the lead character, turns out to be a Divergent and is warned that she will never fit into any of the existing groups. The accepted belief in the society is that when you don’t fit into a specific group, you are a danger to the society because they have no control over you.
Now I don’t know how you feel about this, but personally, I don’t want to be put in a certain frame or category where others think I belong. On the other hand, we all live in a society that requires us to react and behave in a certain way if we want to be able to live peacefully and happy in this world. And to be sure we are molded into that shape is apparently required. You see it everywhere, in media, in magazines, on TV – everywhere; and it can be pretty confusing. This ‘mold-training’ already starts at a very early age. Let me give you a simple example. As a baby you start to talk and everyone endorses your babbling of words, and adults even stop their own conversation to ‘awe’ over all the cute words you produce, even when they don’t understand a word of what you are saying! A few years later, when you really get the hang of talking and formulate your sentences, suddenly, others don’t seem to think your words are so cute. You are vigorously busy taking your previously so highly appreciated talking to the next level, and suddenly, they tell you to shut your mouth because the grown-ups are talking now… hellooo, how confusing is that?
So now you learn that you have to be quiet when the grown-ups talk…
This simple example, and of-course many other contradictory input you get, will shape your thinking, beliefs, feeling and behavior. Which has a larger influence upon everything you do in the present and future. All these experiences are stored in your subconscious and from second to second, is used as comparison material to create your present behavior. All of your subconsciously stored positive experiences won’t bother you. But negative experiences can force you to have all kinds of beliefs and behavior that does not serve you at all. The worst part, is that in most cases, you’re not even aware of why you believe and act in a way that doesn’t serve you. This will effect how freely you really are in your conversations and behavior towards your friends, family, co-workers, etc.
We all have our own values on how to think and what the best way is to respond to others in a certain situation. And there is nothing wrong with that, as long as our rational thoughts are in balance with all our feelings. If not, then we are conflicted. So many people feel that they would like to express themselves more clearly, but are afraid of what the responses will be of others in their surroundings. The sad thing about this is that you are slowly killing that inner pure voice you once had.
The real reason so many people are afraid to communicate freely and hold back their true thoughts depends on what is stored in their subconscious brain. We all have certain ‘jamming stations’ in our subconscious that stops us to be who we want to be. These jamming stations are called bad clusters, and are very easy to overcome, but more about that in future blogs…
But the point is, our unique-self lies in the essence of understanding our true selves, not who we think we are – or who we think we’d like to be, but who we really are to our core. And if we were to break this idea down to its simplest form, this is what it would look like.
I mentioned in my last blog post that our subconscious processes nearly 1 million times more information than we’re ever consciously aware of. And based on the natural laws of nature, there is no cause without effect. No function without a purpose, no cell, organ or tissue in your body exists without reason. So why does our subconscious need all of this large amount of data if we cannot consciously remember it? Without this large amount of data we would have no consciousness! Our subconscious needs this information to shape how we think and determine how we shape our lives. It protect us, it delivers the ingredients that we consciously use to create beliefs. Based on those beliefs, we form our opinions, which are all based on our past experiences. It pushes us away from pain – whatever the source of that pain may be. And the right understanding of how the subconscious works will help us access our true selves and shape our life in a much more effective and healthier way.
Our subconscious sounds like this scary and frightening place that we want to hide from, because we’re not sure what’s hidden in there. But you’ve already experienced this information that lies in this unfamiliar place. The information stored in there is communicating to your awareness every second of every day, and it’s just as much a part of you as the fingers on your hands or the toes on your feet. The only difference is you can’t see it. And if you allow yourself the pleasure of accessing this unfamiliar place, the information to the questions you’ve always had will be right there, ready and waiting for you. Your unique self that truly makes you different than everybody else on the planet will present itself to you like the prettiest gift you’ve ever received.
Why be like everybody else when you can be – you?