There’s no time like girl time!
I love to catch up with friends, have a good talk, and exchange silly stories. We laugh and enjoy a drink and a good meal. It’s a refreshing and healthy break from daily life.
It’s easy to use the woman in our lives as a standard from which we measure ourselves. It’s something that can provide perspective but research shows that this can also trigger deep insecurities within us.
Do you relate to the impulse to compare ourselves against what we view as beautiful celebrities and people we know? All aspects of a women’s appearance is up for grabs! Hair, makeup, body type, weight, and clothes, are all used as a means to measure our own self-worth.
Social media emboldens this habit and literally places the power of comparison right at our finger tips. We can follow every wardrobe change of our favorite celebrities or closely monitor a friend’s weight loss journey. But Facebook and Instagram aren’t the only culprits. Television, magazines, and advertisements also play a huge role.
It can happen while strolling through the internet, watching your favorite sitcom, or even as you pass someone interesting in a shopping mall. It can seem like an innocent and automatic habit but research shows us that there is much more to this behavior.
I recently came across an issue in Glamour Magazine which explored this very issue. The article found that self-comparison significantly affects our relationships with others, contributes to the self-image problems at large, and negatively contributes to our personal well-being.
The article found that in most cases this type of comparison only leads us to find something negative about ourselves. It strengthens the insecurities in our minds and makes the issue bigger than it really is. Your beliefs kick in and the negative view that you HAVE to do something to fix problem gets even worse. The weird part is that what was once a small problem grows by the day.
So if it doesn’t serve us in any way and only intensifies our own insecurities why do we do it?
Through Progressive Mental Alignment we learn that our image is usually not the real cause. The habit of comparing is really a way for us to stay away from the real problem. The thoughts and feeling that come with the act of comparing keeps you quite busy. Busy enough that the real underlying issue will not arise from your subconscious. And while there is no one that can multi task better than a women, there are still only 24 hours in a day! J So how do we remove this behavior and make time and energy for the things that really matter- like discovering and believing in the real beauty within you?
The answer lies in self-awareness.
The comparison of others is a reference point from which we judge ourselves and it’s driven by our own self-image. But where does your self-image come from?
Self-image is really a belief that you have about yourself which, like all beliefs, is rooted in your life experiences.
Some of these experiences impacted us more than we even know.
Through PMA I became aware of the fact that during certain experiences that are significantly negative, our brain activates an emergency response in our bodies which causes information to be incorrectly processed and stored in our subconscious. This abnormal collection of information is known as a bad cluster in Progressive Mental Alignment and is interlinked with all of the emotions and details we experienced during this emergency state.
Here is a simple example:
Growing up Leah’s parent’s argued often. One night the argument got out of hand. Her parents were both screaming loudly. In the end Leah’s father looked at her mother and then turned to Leah, hit her and pushed her aside and shouted ‘you’re as ugly as your mother!’ He stormed out of the house, never to return.
This was a significant moment in Leah’s life. She heard her mother crying as she watched her father drive away forever. In this helpless, panicked state, her brain activated an emergency response in her body which created a bad cluster but also shaped her beliefs.
After this traumatic incident (bad cluster) Leah adopted the internal belief that her father left her mother because he thought she was ‘ugly’ and that in order to for people to stick around she cannot be ugly.
This moment shaped the rest of Leah’s life.
As a child Leah was healthy but became a bit overweight. A negative remark of one of her friends activated the bad cluster and after that she became consumed with the slim and photo shopped models that sprinkled the pages of her magazines and dreamed of transforming into one of them. As a young woman and adult Leah goes to great lengths so that others will not view her as ugly.
She became an extreme dieter and spends a lot time comparing her appearance to that of other women as a tool to measure how she should look. That’s how far negative beliefs that originate from bad clusters can impact us.
It’s important to note that Leah doesn’t necessarily remember this incident with her parents or what her father said to her. But subconsciously, this incorrectly processed event radiates powerful emotions there are activated in her daily life and used as comparison material by her brain to create negative beliefs about herself.
Progressive Mental Alignment shows us that we create beliefs that seem logic and just to us. The purpose of these beliefs is to pull our conscious brain away from the real source (the bad cluster). Consequently, the ‘comforting’ beliefs we develop, while well intentioned, are really leading us in the opposite direction from the real cause of our negativity.
In Leah’s case urge to alter her appearance is strong and exhausting but because of her activated bad cluster, she will continue feeling this way. As long as Leah is not aware of the real cause of her discomfort with her body, she will be consumed by her negative beliefs about image.
After revealing the content of the bad cluster she will effortlessly let go of her negative beliefs which will allow her to fulfill her true potential, with no hurdles! She will feel balanced and become aware of the true beauty inside of her.
Can you even imaging how much time and energy has been lost in her life trying to pull away from an incorrect feeling?
Progressive Mental Alignment allows her to put a stop to that once and for all.
The beliefs about her body are so embedded in Leah’s subconscious that no amount of logic or positive thinking can permanently re-wire her brain.
Only Progressive Mental Alignment can locate these bad clusters, address inhibiting belief systems, and free of us the negativity that impacts our daily lives and prevents us from reaching our full potential…and the process is easier than you think.
In the book Desirable Power, you are taught how to find and remove your own bad clusters. It’s a process which promises to provide more clarity, energy, and happiness in your life.
Many people want to forget their past and leave it where it is. But here is an important fact: the past will never leave you alone until you make the proper conscious and subconscious connections! And don’t get me wrong here. I don’t want to scare you. Instead, I want to inform you that you have the power within you to finally get rid of those nagging feelings and habits that control your life in an unnecessary negative way.
I know that not loving who you are is hard and exhausting. You don’t have to feel this way any longer…and you won’t, once you see the beauty that’s been there all along. Trust me. It’s more alluring than any magazine cover you’ve even seen!
By removing the damaging blemishes from your subconscious you’ll begin to shine brighter than ever.
Who’s the star now? 😉
Image credit: Glamour