A friend of mine had an older sister, we’ll call her – Veronica. When Veronica left home for the first time, she rented a cute little apartment just outside the city, and my friend and I would go visit her quite often. We often had “painting parties”to change the colors of her house because Veronica was so (not) so decisive. She would choose so many colors for her wall and never quite had the right one in mind. But, despite of all the work it cost us, we always had a great time. We would laugh until all hours of the night, bake cookies and bond over mysterious “woman” talks. 🙂 Veronica was a good person. She was always very helpful and caring, and often tried to get the best out of everything. Not to mention, I’ll never forget the amazing cookies she baked for all of us.
But the most interesting thing about Veronica was that while she was a fun and nice person, she was (for me at that time) quite unpredictable. She had these so called “mood swings” that sent everybody hiding in another room, taking some cookies on their way because we knew we would be in there for a while. One minute she was laughing and having a wonderful time, and the other minute – volatile. She would focus on a crumb that happened to fall on the ground, or a tiny splatter of paint that managed to make its way onto the tile. And for us, it was so confusing that one-minute she would laugh about a splash of paint that hit the tile and another time she would go BAZOOKA.
Now, I know a lot of women are familiar with these sudden changes in mood. And mood swings are for many so difficult to understand because there’s no obvious reason (to the outsiders looking in) as to what happens to change the energy in the present surroundings.
There is a reason why Veronica reacted so “unpredictably” from such a good moment to a negative outburst. It’s not that she just decided for herself: “Hey, letshave a outburst right now, because it feels so good!” She reacted based on similarities of the same ingredients in one of her a bad clusters (think of the zoo example with Marla).
I know it can be difficult to be in the same surroundings as someone who has mood swing episodes. Although they are sporadic, I even have a hard time being around myself when I have one. 🙂 But, know that you can overcome this and even help others with just asking a few Progressive Mental Alignment questions that will snap them right out of that state.
The accepted explanations for the cause of mood swings are as follows:
– They are a result of dealing with stressful and/or unexpected situations in daily life.
– They are the result of an unhealthy diet, lifestyle, drug abuse, hormonal imbalance, hyperactivity and ADHD. (Veronica suffered from none of these things)
The treatment is an interesting cocktail of medicines, exercise, treats, distractions (watching TV or reading) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Which is learning to bring oneself down or up, taking a proactive approach to managing your moods and sense of self-esteem.
However, I’m here to tell you that the real cause of mood swings is 100% caused by information that is wrongly stored in your subconscious. There were different elements of that “painting party” (which are totally unique to Veronica) that activated her sudden change in mood – which is why the other people couldn’t see it coming. Because the specific ingredients of the room like the music, the colors of the paint, the body posture of the other people, the type of cookies (the list goes on), are stored somewhere in her subconscious as a bad cluster. And as soon as there are so many of these ingredients present, she starts to feel it in her body, which rapidly changes her mood.
In one of my previous blogs I explained the existence of “bad clusters” in your subconscious. In this post I won’t go into more explanation, but I’ll take you through an exercise that will help you overcome your own mood swings in just a jiffy!
The exercise we are going to do is a basic approach to the Progressive Mental Alignment technique. You can use it for any kind of negative feeling that suddenly pops-up. This could be an irritation, anger, jealousy, sadness, depression and any other nasty feeling you want to overcome as fast as possible.
This exercise is very simple, that is to say if you are not afraid of yourself. 🙂 Let’s get right into it:
- Pay attention to WHEN exactly you felt your good mood going down the drain.
- What did you see, hear, smell, taste or touch just seconds before that you didn’t like?
- Don’t start “thinking” now, just go with the first moment that pops-up, from just before your mood changed?
- Focus on that moment?
- What specific part this moment do you not like?
- Is it something you see, hear, smell, taste or touched?
- VERY IMPORTANT: Don’t THINK about this but pay attention to your body! You body will tell you instantly. How? By intensifying the negative feeling you already experienced.
- Now just focus on that particular detail in that moment. Is it something you see, hear, smell, taste or touched?
- After you clearly feel what the specific detail is that intensifies your negative feeling, focus on that detail.
- If you focus just on that particular detail, how does that affect your feelings? Does it get worst? Great! You are on the right track and almost there.
- What is it exactly that you feel? Try not to describe the feeling as a label, but WHERE in your body do you feel WHAT? Pay attention to even the slightest changes in your feelings.
- Now focus only on that particular detail that you do not like, and become fully aware of how this makes you feel.
- Now allow your brain to spontaneously come up with any memory it wants to.
- What is the first memory that pops-up spontaneously? (It can be anything! It doesn’t have to make sense to you at this point WHY this memory came up. Just allow at and don’t push it away!)
- What is dominant in that memory that just popped up?
- This memory is now our next point forward and we are going to repeat the previous process.
- So again you ask yourself: What in this memory creates the most negative feeling in my body?
- Once your body tells you what the moment is (remember, don’t think! Feel!), you focus on that moment and ask yourself: What in this most is that one thing that annoys me most and intensifies my negative feeling?
- Once you found the detail of that memory that is most important to you, focus on that detail and allow the feeling that it activates until SPONTANIOUSLY a new memory pops-up.
Do you notice that focusing on this moment and detail intensifies the feelings?
This brief exercise is to help you learn how your subconscious mind uses comparison material that you are usually never aware of. Your subconscious processes between two million times more sensory data than you will ever become aware of. If it would not do this, then you would have no awareness! The “spontaneous” memories you just saw are a part of this subconscious comparison material. The feelings attached to those memories cause your specific mood swing.
Most of the people that follow this exercise instantly feel better, just because of the many connections your subconscious has made through this new insight. Some people that try this exercise might feel that their negative has gotten more intense after these first two rounds. So you’re probably saying, “Oh wow, great! Thank you Ingrid, now I feel even more miserable than before!” No, No, I wont let you hang there J. Actually, the feeling that you have right now tells you that you are on the right track and the only thing you have to do is finish it and make a home run!
And again you don’t have to do this by yourself, I will give you the right tools to do so. Now we’re getting to the core of what Progressive Mental Alignment is all about. Now, continue this exercise and keep doing what we did before, until …… a spontaneous memory pops-up that you could never consciously remember before but your body was giving you the signals all along.
And, you are so right to say that this is technically not a “memory”. It is the content of a bad cluster. This bad cluster is the root cause of your mood swing. Once this image (“memory” for lack of a better word) pops-up in your conscious brain, you will immediately feel the negative feeling wash away. You can compare it to carrying a bag of stones on your back and suddenly it is not necessary to carry that entire load anymore. Now you have the freedom to decide what you want do with your regained energy.
The amazing thing about this process is, that once the bad cluster becomes a conscious memory, this particular bad cluster will never ever cause a negative feeling ever again! The reason for that was because the content of a bad cluster was never analyzed correctly before, but because of the Progressive Mental Alignment process it now becomes a conscious memory and will be analyzed and stored correctly in your awareness. What is even more amazing is the fact that by transforming the negative energy of bad clusters you can heal many psychosomatic complaints like headaches, intestinal problems, depression, addictions, chronic fatigue and many, many other health problems.
This process can take as little, or as much time as you would like it to. But what’s important to remember is that your overall wellness (mental and physical) is 100% about the proper communication between the information stored in your subconscious you cannot “remember” and the emotions you attach to this information through your conscious awareness. As soon as the conscious brain becomes aware of this “wrongly stored” information, this information will be stored correctly within a split of a second and major medical psychosomatic problems you’ve suffered from (for years!) will immediately subside.
Wishing you tons of health and happiness,