Where there is change, there is courage.
Change means doing something you’ve never done before, exploring new terrain, and throwing yourself blindly into the depths of discomfort for the chance at a new life.
Whether you’re jumping into a new career or starting a fresh relationship, change means refusing to accept things as they are and breaking open what should have been all along.
Self-evolution propels us to fulfill our greatest potential. It offers us more confidence, joy, focus, and energy. It makes the path clearer and pulls our dreams closer.
When you really change, you feel it. You see the difference it makes in your life and those around you. This type of transformation gives you more confidence, happiness, focus, and energy.
Do you remember a change that made a great impact in your life? Maybe you disconnected yourself from a bad influence, lost a significant amount of weight, had a conversation you put off for a long time, or attempted to become more punctual.
These types of accomplishments are not easy.
Other challenging changes might be the desire to control your temper or to better manage emotional confrontations, like disagreements between married couples.
Imagine a woman who turns around and slams the door every time there is a disagreement with her husband. She knows this isn’t productive and doesn’t solve her issues. But every time she starts feeling the emotion rise, she feels the need to walk away and slam the door as hard as possible.
Maybe you can relate in some way to this like when you get the feeling that you want to throw something or slam a door or yell. For a moment it brings a sense of relief. After you slam the door the feelings subside a bit but flare up shortly after. It’s a roller coaster that you want to get off of- and fast!
To begin to change it’s important to explore the deeper meaning behind these types of behaviors.
In the above example of the ‘door slamming’, what is it about the disagreement that makes her react the way she did? What is the emotion that she feels right before leaving? Where in her body does she feel this emotion? Is it in her stomach or chest or her head? If she is able to stop and analyze the emotion at the moment it’s happening she’ll open the door to greater understanding of her emotional ticks which are all signals from her subconscious! A big part of change has to do with understanding your own subconscious impulses and tracking their source.
It’s also important to understand why we resist change so much even though we want to change!
You first thought might be “Yes, I need to change this. Once I change this I will be happier”.
If you pay close attention, you might notice another voice in your head that pops up a short time later (sometimes seconds later) that begins with “Yes, But….” That second voice is part of your belief systems that kick-in to remind you why you can’t or shouldn’t change and why it’s better to stick with your old belief systems and old way of living. The woman in the example above arguing with her husband might think:
He should have known better
This will show him what he said was wrong
He will never change
I don’t deserve that type of disrespect
These type of beliefs justify our behavior and sabotage our desire to change. We all have our own beliefs that block change and growth in our own life. Do any of the following sound familiar to you? I remember believing some of these myself in the past!
It’s too hard to make change
I’m too busy to make time for it
Maybe this is just who I am and there is no way to change
I don’t have the necessary skills to change
I don’t have the sufficient will power
I don’t have the enough connections to the right people who can help me
I’m too late. My chance to change passed. Now I’m too old
These thoughts have more power than you know. They become the belief systems that shape your current life! If you’re attempting to change who you are in any significant way, these belief systems will greatly impact your attempt.
Ask yourself: Have you simply accepted your life as it is, accepting the emotional and physical pain as a companion to the happy parts of your life?
Think about where you are in your life and where you could be, even 1 year from now, if that pain and negativity wasn’t in the picture. By mentally keeping room for these negative and inhibiting behaviors, emotions, and, discomforts, you are seriously blocking the potential of greatness in your life.
Know that YOU are more powerful than the forces that are holding you back from progress.
All you need is the knowledge. I can help you by providing you with the tools that can help you reach your goals and make permanent changes in your life.
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Don’t be so hard on yourself! If you haven’t made the changes you so desire in your life yet, it’s not because you aren’t strong, smart, willing, or deserving. You are all of those things and more. The amazing truth is that all you need is the right tools to help you get where you’ve always wanted to be- where you deserve to be.
Once you find and eliminate the root cause of these behaviors, they will never hold you back again.
Motivation is ever lasting and change will be permanent. You’ll understand how truly amazing you are!
Don’t struggle any longer to grow in the way you so desire. Join me in my journey to discover the truth within. It really is the key to unlocking our greatest potential and fulfilling our greatest dreams.