It’s time. The moment you’ve prepared for. You’re back stage and take a peek at the growing crowd out front. At any moment you’ll be standing in front of all those people for a presentation.
You feel your stomach get into knots…or maybe it’s butterflies! Your hands get sweaty and your heart starts beating. You take a deep breath and….show time!
Does this scenario sound familiar to you? Think about the last time you were asked to speak in front of a group. What did you feel right before you went up? Many people express feeling frozen, and confused about what they’re going to say while replaying the possibilities in their head about all of the things that could happen. They talk about not wanting to look nervous while often replaying the moment in their head afterwards; fixated on what they could have said differently and wondering what the audience must have thought.
Can you relate to that? Those moments are very intense and many of us have been there. Public speaking is one of the most common fears of adults. In fact it’s reported that 74% of people have some level of fear about talking in front of people. That’s a huge number!
What makes the fear even worse is that most people can’t avoid public speaking. Whether you have a presentation for work, a special personal event, or an educational project, at some point you have to stand in front of a crowd!
Because of its lingering presence in our life, public speaking is something worth addressing for the benefit of our personal and professional goals. It’s time to do something about it!
Embrace the fear
Sometimes even just the thought of an upcoming speech or presentation is enough to freak you out! How in the world are you supposed to successfully prepare for a public speaking engagement if you can’t even think about it?
The truth is that the best way to solve the issue IS to think about it. You need to think about how to discover the triggers that activate the subconscious source of your fear! Focusing on that fear can help you understand the real depth of those emotions and that there is something much bigger going on here that is much more significant than talking in front of people.
What are the triggers that makes it so scary?
The mainstream psychology approach
In mainstream psychology they tell you that Public Speaking is the ultimate form of vulnerability! To be ‘vulnerable’ means to be ‘open to moral attack and criticism, to be open to assault, and to be susceptible to being wounded or hurt’.
Standing and performing in front of people can feel like an open invitation for judgment and criticism on a grand scale. It’s like being thrown out on the battle field with no weapon! Can you imagine that loss of control, fear, and urge to run away that would arise in that situation?
These arguments all sound reasonable and make sense on a rational level. The thing is, fear is not rational. It’s emotional!
Try a more effective approach
Here is an interesting experiment you can perform:
- If you are afraid of public speaking then ask yourself and other people with a similar fear the following questions:
- If you think of a real event when you felt this fear, what in that event is the most important moment that you are afraid of?
- Is it when you enter the platform, when you see all the people looking at you, the fact that most of them are strangers, or could it be that you know them all too well? Might it be the microphone?
- In that moment what is the most dominant detail? What is that one thing that intensifies your fear?
- If you want to go a little deeper into this you ask:
- What did you picture in your head about the public speaking event before you had to speak?
- What in that picture is the most dominant detail that intensifies your feeling of fear?
- After they isolate that one detail ask them where in their body they feel the emotion.
- Once they describe the physical symptoms that create their fear, ask them to fully allow those symptoms and accept them while focusing on that one detail that stands out.
- Now ask: If you allow your subconscious to come up with whatever it wants, what is the first memory that pops-up?
Road map to lasting succes
You will notice that different people will give you different details about what they’re afraid of and always a different memory that pops-up. What they all feel is fear that intensifies even more after the memory pops up.
These are the EXACT emotions linked to the bad clusters stored in our subconscious. When these bad clusters, which are packed with the strongest feelings of fear, are triggered for any reason, we automatically feel the fear in our body!
Understanding how your subconscious brain works and how it creates emotions like fear can not only help you identify what your specific triggers are but also reveal and eliminate the bad cluster- the source of your fear!
The wonderful thing about it, is that once a bad cluster is removed it will never come back.
You’re fear will disappear and you’ll experience much more confidence and emotional strength.
Understand your fear and conquer it. It’s the power you need to stand out in the crowd!