How to Break Bullying- Forever

How to Break Bullying- Forever

Bullying remains a dark reality for hundreds of people. It doesn’t just impact the 6 out of 10 students who say they are victims of bullying on a daily basis but also a growing number of adults in the workplace. Technology has extended the reach of bullying beyond the confined spaces of school and work into a global arena of 24 hour online accessibility. Bullies can use sites like Facebook, Twitter and Instagram to inflict powerful and personal harm on victims.

The emotional damage is clear, impacting important aspects of life even years after the bullying ends. Despite the growing interest and concern, bullying has remained a serious epidemic with no solid solution in sight- until now.

New science uncovers the root cause of bullying behavior and reveals how deeply victims are effected on a subconscious level. It’s insight that offers a deeper look at the powerful root cause of our emotional pain, behavior and beliefs and traces a road map towards the ultimate solution.

It begins by exploring the amazing inner workings of the subconscious brain and to do that we have to picture ourselves there. We’ll use Ricky’s story as an example:


1 Picture with a million broken pieces

Ricky stands in front of his locker early in the morning. There are many things happening around him; many students talking, laughing, and yelling as they walk past him, teachers speaking to each other. The sounds of locker doors closing and opening. The sound of the school buses shrieking as they slow down to approach the front of the school. The different colors of the books in front of him, how heavy they are. All of these details are pieces of data this his subconscious is processing (it processes a million times more information than the conscious brain is even aware of!) This data, which enters through his senses, is processed with specific emotion based on importance. (Like, for example, Ricky understands that the sound of the bell is pretty important if he wants to get to his first class on time!)

The brain always processes information this way- no matter what. So what happens if Ricky is standing there subconsciously processing all of this information around him and all of a sudden he gets pushed to the ground? He goes into instant panic mode. He falls to the ground and his books drop beside him. Another kid who is really tall, with dark curly hair and brown eyes is wearing a striped blue shirt and is standing above him, teasing him. Ricky sees his sharp chin and dimples. The bully is pointing at him with his finger, his voice is very deep and his feet are tapping as he laughs loudly before walking away. The bully has a very distinct walk that Ricky subconsciously notes as he’s still on the ground.  In that moment, Ricky felt a huge loss of control and fear. He froze in his panic and while HE froze, his brain sure didn’t. His brain continued to process all of those little details about the bully along with everything else that was going on around him in that hallway. Even though HE wasn’t focused on those things, his subconscious was. But during those moments, all of the data was processed with panic and fear. So all of those details that he absorbed about the bully and everything around him, was processed, but not the correct and healthy way. It is bad data. It’s why we call this data, bad clusters.

Bullying: The pain of a lifetime

Many years after the bullying is over, Ricky is talking to a tall co-worker with a deep voice who has dark curly hair and is wearing a striped blue shirt, who is holding a stack of different colored books. Ricky starts to feel panicked but is not sure why (He begins to think that perhaps he ate the wrong thing this morning, or maybe he’s dehydrated, maybe it’s just too hot in here?). All he knows is that he wants to get away from that situation- and quick! Later, Ricky decides that he doesn’t like this person because he ‘rubs’ him the wrong way.

What’s really happening is that those little details associated with the co-worker triggered an ‘activation’ of those bad clusters which were processed incorrectly during that bullying episode years ago. The activation of bad clusters is the number 1 cause of problems such as depression, insecurity, anxiety and rage and more.

But the impact of bad clusters doesn’t end there! They also affect our beliefs about ourselves and the world and our behaviors.

That bullying episode caused Ricky to develop an incorrect belief that did not serve him at all. He began to believe that who he was as a person made him a target for bullying and therefore he must become someone else. For years, Ricky felt as if he had to play a part and had trouble being himself with most people.

How to Break Bullying- Forever

Victims of traumatic bullying can develop all sorts of beliefs and behaviors as a response to the emotional pain. These beliefs drive the way they approach certain aspects of their life and how they view others.  It’s a complicated consequence of bullying that develops to push them away from the real root source of their emotional pain- bad clusters.

Don’t push away the pain. Transform it.

Most people don’t realize the complexity with which the subconscious stores and then activates data, throughout their life. These activations determine their beliefs and actions. When this data is wrongly stored- it creates beliefs and behaviors detrimental to your growth, health and happiness.

This makes internet bullying a prime platform for an over activation of pain from previous harassment. While you can’t control the behavior of this type of emotional attack, you CAN change the way it impacts you.

By consciously addressing bad clusters, the data is instantly reprocessed correctly (so that, for instance in Ricky’s case, someone with dark curly hair doesn’t activate panic!). This process instantly erases the associated negativity, immediately offering peace, confidence and clarity while improving behaviors and transforming beliefs to YOUR benefit!

What’s amazing about this “re-coding” process, is that it doesn’t just help victims of bullying, it helps the bully by addressing the root source of the bullying behavior- which is usually based in pain and trauma of their own.

Each of us reacts to pain very differently. The same pain that might make someone close off might make someone else a bully as a reaction to their own discomfort or fear.

To truly put a stop to bullying and heal victims permanently, we have to face the pain that drives us all.

Most people are not aware how powerful the ripple effect can be and how it’s causing self-sabotaging behaviors and beliefs that impact every single aspect of life. It often creates a weight carried throughout life, which steals energy and disrupts purpose. Don’t allow bullies from the past to drive your behavior and health today.

Progressive Mental Alignment pinpoints and transforms the pieces of pain with most powerful impact, allowing victims to take back the control of their life and freeing bullies from the behavior based on a hurtful past.

Control your own life from a clear perspective, without emotional pain, and settle into the life you were always meant to have!

Are you curious how your brain is functioning and want to free yourself of your psychological and psychosomatic complaints? Read all you need to know in Desirable Power

How Freedom Redefines Routine

Sometimes our life changes in the most unexpected ways! Recently a client of mine shared an amazing shift in perspective that has totally transformed her life! I’m sure many of us can relate to her story:

The Drain Game

Christina is a married and working mom of 2 small children, embroiled in the non-stop responsibilities and activities of life. She loves her family and job and has a great group of friends that she’s super grateful for. Still- something was stressing her out and draining her energy. She thought that cleaning up her to do list would give her more energy. But it felt like no matter how much she checked off her list, there were a 100 more things to do and not enough energy or time to do them. She felt like she was always playing ‘catch up’. She found herself with very little time for fun, hobbies, and self-improvement and any moments that did appear, made her want to hide away and do nothing! The ’10 year’ plan that she and her husband created years ago to propel themselves forward financially and personally didn’t seem to be blossoming at the speed they once hoped. It seemed life was on ‘repeat’ with each day, week and even year resembling the previous. They always TALKED of wanting and needing more but simply felt stuck.

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What you believe, you receive

The thing is that Christina began to accept and believe that this routine was a normal part of life. “How is it possible?” she thought, “to fit ANTYHING else into our overloaded days without neglecting something else? She also saw this exact same pattern happening with her friends, so she knew that she was not the only one. Ever notice how we seek confirmation and proof in our surroundings to strengthen our beliefs, even if it doesn’t feel right?

So back to Christina. She “just” accepted routine as a ‘necessary’ part of her life and, simply, as ‘the way it is’.  Her desire for personal growth was always separate from her routine because, she honestly didn’t feel that it needed or should change. She didn’t realize that you can’t separate your routine from personal growth! Although some routines are healthy, many people hold on to unnecessary routines in a way that inhibits their personal growth. As a matter of fact, they need these distracting routines to experience a feeling of control in order to suppress the emotion from moments in their life in which they lost control.

Because of Christina’s strong ‘belief’ that her routine wasn’t a problem, she blamed her exhaustion, stress and moodiness on other things.

Connecting the dots

During our recent session I asked Christina to pick out a recent situation that upset her so much, that she could still feel the emotions in the present moment. She immediately came up with a recent dispute with a friend that left her feeling frustrated. Christina describes the situation and through my questions, based on the information she is giving me, she becomes more aware of the specific details that trigger the most negative feelings in that recent situation. She focuses on that feeling until a new picture pops up from her childhood. In this memory she relives where she is, who’s around her and what is happening. The details from that memory and the emotions that those details activate lead to an even earlier moment in her life, during a car accident when she was 3 years old. She was able to relive the memory of this car accident and remembers the moment of impact when another vehicle hit them from behind. In this moment Christina felt totally out of control. She isolates that moment and remembers the screeching sound of the car, the laundry basket full of clothes flying to the front seat, the loud sound of the car horn and the pressure from her seat belt. Many of these details matched the recent dispute Christina had with her friend which took place in a car in a lot of traffic with the sounds of car horns all around her. She was able to see how those details from the recent argument match the details from the accident. By reliving the moment, her subconscious was able to reprocess those details properly, which removed their negative load. The details of this situation were able to reveal the root cause of Christina’s frustration and were instantly able to see the whole situation, totally differently.

The session directly connected her to a specific moment from her past that she couldn’t remember but that was stored away in her subconscious.

The road to renewal

Christina’s session was very successful and offered a great amount of relief, offering a lot of personal insight but that was only the beginning of her growing process. As the days passed she continued to ‘connect the dots’ of her life (past and present) totally differently. She was able to see her life from a different perspective.

All of a sudden she realized that life, doesn’t HAVE to be anything or fit into the destructive “routine” mold she created for herself. In truth, we have full control to make life what we want, once we understand how the subconscious brain controls our life! That doesn’t mean that the outcome is always exactly how we want it to be, but we have a choice to do what is best for us in every situation.  She realized that it was her very beliefs that were creating the stresses of her routine. It hit her that she was letting the routine run her life, instead of creating a routine that benefited her and her family’s goals.

So what changed? What caused Christina to free herself from her exhausting routine? The answer to this question will lead to solutions in ALL areas of life that need improvement.

The bridge to better

It begins by understanding that we always do whatever it takes to avoid the most powerful negative feelings in our subconscious. Even if that means engaging in behavior that isn’t good for you emotionally or physically. As long as those things keep you away from the strongest pain, you’ll feel compelled to repeat it. This is our strongest genetic impulse. It’s called our Friend Mechanism because it protects us from pain.

In Christina’s case, the pattern of her routines distracted her from the real, more powerful root source of her deepest pain. Even though the routine was draining and stressful, it felt better than having quiet time to dig deeper and discover what was really bothering her. The routine was suppressing subconscious materiel called bad clusters. For example, Christina began to notice that seeing a bin full of dirty laundry had an immediate impact on her mood. (Remember the laundry basket from the car accident?) It made her feel instant panic. In order to avoid that annoying feeling she created a ‘schedule’ of washing, folding and organizing clothes that kept her very busy but the laundry basket empty.  Of course this routine was stressful but it felt better than looking at a basket filled to the top with laundry!

This is the damaging cycle that bad clusters cause. That laundry basket filled with clothes ‘triggered’ an activation of a bad cluster- filled with powerfully emotional details from the past.

By addressing this bad cluster she’ll discover the real cause of her stressful feeling and the urge to hold on to self-sabotaging routines will be gone forever. This doesn’t mean that Christina will stop doing the laundry!! It just means that this chore won’t cause the stress and panic it once did and will prevent the draining behavior that followed. She’ll be able to handle it efficiently and productively, and without distress!

With all the knowledge and insight she gained from her session she was able to tap in more deeply to her emotional perspective of the world around her.  She quickly began to see a different picture and created a new plan with her husband. It’s a new schedule on their terms. One that offers more attention and help to each of them while allowing space for rest, fun, quality time and important projects. Together they’re forging a new path.  She still has responsibilities but they have become a small piece of the greater puzzle. She likes to say that she put those responsibilities ‘in their place’. They don’t control her life anymore. She has more energy and even more amazingly more ‘time’ has started to appear. Now her routine has become a springboard from which she can explore life!

See the bigger, brighter picture

Do you relate to Christina’s story?

What are your routines? We all have them. These scheduled systems can offer a sense of organization and structure in a life filled with responsibilities and unpredictability. But they’re supposed to make life easier not harder. Routine is supposed to streamline our day and create an effective way to get through all of our obligations. But too often, routine, if connected to activated bad cluster (link) will leave you feeling stuck and running in circles trying to catch up, like Christina was doing.

When you let routine become your life, it gets harder to enjoy hobbies and passions while unique experiences and precious YOU time take a back seat. When the repetition of routine takes over, it

To truly enjoy your life, to improve your reality and to live in every moment you have to free yourself from the chains of routine. But if you’re thinking, “That’s impossible” “There are only so many hours in the day” “I have work, children, a house to clean and obligations” – then it’s time to check your beliefs- and why you believe the way that you do.

The more you begin to make the proper connections in your brain, the more your beliefs shift in your favor. You’ll start to re-gain control of your life and move it in the direction of more happiness and success. Nothing and no one can hold you back! The amazing news is that YOU are stronger than your most powerful impulses. You have the natural ability to STOP running in circles and begin running forward.

Don’t settle for corners of happiness in the spaces between everyday routine. You deserve and are MEANT for so much more. Life is meant to be enjoyed in every moment! So, this very second, choose to embrace, explore, and experience the greatness of the world outside the barriers of routine and watch your world blossom.

Discover and dismantle the root source of all your emotional and physical pain!

The past can power your present, if you let it.

I would like to make you aware of an amazing aspect of your brain using the following example:

You are driving your car early in the morning. You have to run some errands and visit a store, which is about 45 minutes from your house. While driving, you see the sun come up. It offers a warm and peaceful feeling. Your mind plunges in thoughts of last evening when you had some friends over for dinner. You relive the nice conversation you had with your friends about plans for their upcoming vacation to Europe. She wants you to come along with her to spend some time together. You’ve always wanted to go to Europe – especially Italy! Besides the cultural aspect, which fascinates you, the delicious food you’d heard so much about is a big plus too:). While driving, you weigh the pros and cons and along the way you get more and more excited about the trip to Europe. And then, suddenly, you’ve arrived at the store!

Maybe you’re thinking, ‘girl where is this story going?’

Okay here it is :).

I’m sure, somehow, you can relate to the story above. So here’s my question for you. While you were thinking about all kinds of things, were you fully aware of what was happening on the road? Were you fully paying attention to all the other cars and upcoming left and right turns OR did you JUST drive and arrive perfectly without missing a light, a cross road or a stop sign? While you were day dreaming about your visit to the Grand Canal in Venice Italy, who was driving the car?

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The subconscious always has your back!

In these types of situations you function on a sort of ‘autopilot’ in which you let your subconscious lead the way. You were able to get to your destination- which you’ve done dozens of times before, because of the millions of pieces of information and data you already stored in your subconscious from previous experiences! This data makes up the comparison materiel your subconscious uses to process and address every new moment.

Do you remember when you first got your driver’s license? Think back to that time for a moment. For many of us, there was excitement the moment we passed that test and posed for the very first ID picture!

That excitement quickly turned to nervousness and focus the first time you sat behind the wheel. On the road, you were so focused, that it was even hard to have a conversation because you were so concentrated on every line on the street, every sign, every turn signal and every car on the road- all while trying to remember all of the laws and information you learned during your practice and tests. Everything that your senses perceived during this first drive became part of your comparison materiel in your subconscious. The more you drove, the more and more confident you became- until one day you reached the point where you could daydream, have a conversation with your passenger or speak on the phone and STILL arrive to your destination!

Can you imagine having to figure out how to drive and having to re-learn every state law every time you got in the car? How frustrating would that be? And pretty scary too! I for one, would never drive if that was the case!! On the other hand, this would make a great “excuse” for being late at an appointment 😉

Thanks to all of the information stored in your subconscious, you don’t have to re-start every time! There are still a lot of NEW things happening on the road that you should remain aware of while driving at all times. But you’re able to better focus on those NEW and random occurrences because you don’t have to worry about re-learning all of the OLD things.

That’s the amazing power and ability of the brain!

The routine makes it easy, YOU make it AWESOME

The subconscious doesn’t just store lessons, it also stores experiences – in fact, it stores EVERY experience you’ve ever had.

It’s why day-to-day activities can become such a routine. As soon as the alarm clock goes off, ‘autopilot’ turns on. Among other things, you jump in the shower, get dressed, brush your hair and jump into the car the same way, day after day. Have you ever started your morning routine and then half way through you realize- WAIT! I’m off today! Or, WAIT! I’m on vacation! You came to this (AMAZING) realization after ‘waking up’ from autopilot mode- and then all of a sudden you start getting super excited about all of the fun plans ahead of you :).

Sabotaging beliefs arising from your subconscious

Our subconscious does not just control and regulate our behavior patterns. It also defines our thinking, belief systems and emotions every second of our lives. This has an enormous impact on your happiness, health, success and relationships.

Have you ever jumped to a conclusion (belief) about someone’s personality based on how they look? Is there a specific habit that is difficult to stop no matter how hard you try? Do you feel a certain way about roller coasters or airplanes or pools? Do you have a specific belief about who you are or what you can or can’t do?

All of these thinking patterns, beliefs and feelings are ‘impulses’ driven by data from your previously stored subconscious comparison materiel.

Unfortunately not all that data is positive. Our subconscious contains also very powerfully negative data that has the most damaging impact on your life and is the root cause of poor health, emotional imbalance, behavioral problems, and more.

These powerful pieces of data, known as bad clusters impede your personal growth, happiness and health in enormous ways. The way your subconscious regulates your routines makes life ‘easier’ in many ways, but it can also make life harder when it’s driven by bad clusters.

Take back the wheel!

The good news is that you have the ultimate power over your life and can ‘flip the switch’ from autopilot to ‘Full control’ any time you want.

This allows you to observe your own behavior and beliefs from a higher perspective and opens the door to true healing which means removing the bad clusters that cause so much trouble!

The result is complete and total freedom. Doesn’t that sound amazing? I can help you ‘flip the switch’ and wake up to the freshness of each new moment and the amazing possibilities that life has to offer!

The truth is life is an adventure. It’s time to jump in. 🙂

Learn how to rise above your mind’s most powerful impulses to heal yourself and improve your life!

The Power Of Perception

Your perception creates your reality, but what creates your perception?


Every new experience is filtered through your core beliefs, your personal past, and unique emotions. Even your mood impacts how your reality looks at any given moment. No 2 people exist in the same perception of reality and it’s why, often, people can see the same situation so differently.

I am pretty sure you’ve run into this ‘difference of opinion’ on occasion. J Maybe you felt differently from someone else about the same topic or you remember an experience differently than your friend. It can be so frustrating trying to ‘convince’ someone to see it your way and really, it’s impossible because they are trying to convince you just as strongly!

Picturing perception

Maybe you recognize the following example:

A friend of yours always speaks highly of her nice neighbor. You’ve seen her in pictures but never met this neighbor in person.

Your brain produces an amazing phenomenon that happens when someone is describing another person. You begin to instantly envision images of how this person should react and behave. Our brain is capable of creating mental pictures on the spot, just by hearing a story. How cool is that?! Your brain can do this because of the huge amount of your own subconscious comparison material. Okay- I’m a little side-tracked now so let’s continue with the exampleJ.

So, based on your own comparison materiel about nice and helpful people, you created a picture in your mind that meets your criteria of how such a person should behave.

One day you’re at the grocery store. You look to the right and instantly remember that face from the pictures of the nice neighbor your friend described!  You approach her, and based on the mental image you created of how she would behave, you start to talk to her as if you’ve known her for years. (From all the stories your friend shared and the mental images you created from those stories, it sure feels that way to youJ J) So, you’re babbling about all kinds of things and all of a sudden she reacts out of the blue saying, “Sorry I am not in the mood for your small talk, please leave me alone!”

It feels as if you are struck by lightning. Your whole perfect mental picture you created of her scatters in your head. That nice neighbor is not nice at all! So… based on how she responded to you, a totally new picture of her emerges in your mind, and guess what? In this new mental picture she doesn’t turn out so nice, grrr!

Your face starts to turn red, your heart is pounding and you feel like sinking into the ground. You mumble the words ‘sorry’ and walk away. You’re totally embarrassed and quite angry by the whole situation. Your embarrassment turns into question marks. How could your friend be so wrong?

So you call your friend and explain the whole annoying event to her. Your friend is quiet for a moment then says, “Oh my gosh”, I know why she reacted that way. This morning her cat died unexpectedly. She’s heartbroken.”

This information puts the behavior of your friend’s neighbor in a totally different perspective. Based on your own experiences of losing a beloved animal, you now suddenly re-assess her behavior and those negative feelings towards that neighbor melt away like snow in the sun.

By the way- your interpretation can go either way; meaning you may have perceived someone as a good person even though they were described to you as a bad person initially.

Black, white and perception

This simple example is rooted in a basic model of how our perceptions are created. The truth is, perspective can’t determine ‘right or wrong’. It simply represents the way you filter the world around you solely based on your existing subconscious comparison material of previously stored experiences.

Ever worn those big shades in a 3D movie theater? Everything comes to life on the screen and pops out at you in the theater! Without those glasses everything looks twisted and blurry. But when you put on the 3D glasses your perspective changes and becomes so much better and more pleasant! After your understanding of how your subconscious brain works, your assessment of events and other people will change drastically. You will see the world through different glasses and so much clearer and with so much more fun.

The really cool thing is that when you rise above your own perspective, you expand your view and experience the wonderful reality of the amazing world around you! AND you discover the truth of your greatness.  Ask yourself– are you beautiful, confident, creative, or loving?  You’ll answer these questions based on your perspective. But the REALITY is much clearer, much more fun and above all, gives you much more inner peace and balance.

Rising above your perspective will allow you to reclaim your TRUE self, connect and understand other people on new levels, and see the world in a brand new way.

Your perspective is powered by the past

If your life is not exactly where you want it to be, it’s time to get insight about how your subconscious controls your perspective and how you can change that to your advantage!

This amazing exploration all begins by understanding how your unique perspective was formed in the first place. It all starts in the womb, where every single detail absorbed by your senses begins to build the album from which all new experiences are compared and processed in your subconscious.  Every single fragment of your experiences are coded with emotion and helps form your opinions and feelings about the things you see in the world.

Emotions are always the determining factor for how you respond to your environment, even when you are not always consciously aware of them.

Unfortunately, it’s those emotions with the most powerfully negative feelings that serve as the strongest drivers of our perception. Our powerful impulse pushing us away from pain creates beliefs, behaviors and perceptions that sabotage our greater well-being.

The newest scientific insights reveal that specific neurophysiological processes cause a sort of short circuiting and create so-called bad clusters in our subconscious. These bad clusters produce the most powerful perception-controlling beliefs. The scary thing about these bad clusters is that you cannot spontaneously remember their content, but you do feel the very powerful feelings they produce. These feelings create your most powerful beliefs and perceptions. Just imagine, there is a power in each of us that controls our thinking, perception, beliefs and even our health. Isn’t it great that there is now a technique that allows you to isolate and re-process the root-source of your most powerfully negative emotions? It’s the key to in-depth healing and growth!

Allow yourself to perceive the truth

The truth is your brain impacts every single aspect of your life. The truth is that you’re genetically wired to move away from pain as far as possible – even if going towards that pain can help you grow!

The most amazing truth is that you’re stronger than your most powerful negative impulses. You have the power and freedom of choice!

Choose to push through the control-center of your perception, face the hidden source your fears and watch the truth transform your perception of the world!

How to Speak Your Mind Fearlessly

In the Age of Communication, technology is the most powerful vehicle for information about the world and deeper connections with the people in our life. But despite these technological strides, emotional expression hasn’t become any easier, in fact it remains a difficult obstacle for most people to overcome.
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The World Wide Wall

While technological advances have helped us communicate more effectively and motived rapid economic growth it has also been known to foster a more intense separation between different countries, organizations, and individuals. It’s because the internet and other high tech tools allow us to seek out the stories, people, and information that support our beliefs about ourselves and the world. In that way, it fractures understanding and compassion between people and can make it challenging to express our own ideas and opinions.

Is communication block something you relate to?

Have you ever watched a movie or show and thought, “Just say it!!” during an emotional moment between two people? It’s almost difficult to watch how many problems could have been avoided by open communication. Have you ever noticed how watching these kinds of scenes create tension in your body? Filmmakers use these annoying moments on purpose to create these feelings of tension to draw you into the movie and lead you into a satisfying finish.

Did you ever realize that they’re enticing the similar experiences that you have stored in your subconscious to activate all these emotions? Next time you experience any kind of emotion during a movie ask yourself: ‘Have I ever found myself in a similar situation?’ Perhaps you desired to talk about something openly but felt insecure about expressing your real emotions? Maybe you were dying to share your misgivings about a guy your friend is really into or maybe you wanted to speak openly about her bad habit that keeps pushing her into social dilemmas at work but were concerned it might upset her? It’s almost as if something blocks you from speaking.


Finding the Fear

Have you ever asked yourself WHY it’s so hard to share you deepest feelings with others? What if I told you that the number 1 reason for this communication freeze is FEAR?

You might feel as if you aren’t afraid to say anything. But even the most bold among us have reservations about sharing their strongest emotions and deepest worries.

Of course this is not a suggestion to share your most sacred feelings with the entire world. It’s something we should definitely be selective about. But on a bigger scale, how can the world’s problems ever be solved without open and honest conversation? Most people want peace and harmony yet can’t find a way to speak peacefully about the most common topics. Why is it so difficult to have open communication with most people?

It’s because most of us don’t even have an open and especially, honest communication with ourselves. Our subconscious mechanisms inspire us to think we do, but understanding how the subconscious works will prove to you that we lie to ourselves about many things.

Understanding the true source of our own beliefs and emotions will help us connect and communicate more successfully with the people in our life and work.

The deepest journey of self-awareness leads us into the subconscious where the damaging programs called bad clusters create unwanted, self-sabotaging reactions in all of us.

The discovery of how bad clusters control our life by Progressive Mental Alignment Founder Jacob Korthuis, revolutionized the way we view our behaviors, beliefs, and overall wellbeing. You can explore deeper insights about the disrupting power of bad clusters in many of my previously written blogs, or in the book ‘Desirable Power’ which explains how you can permanently get rid of bad cluster’s negative and unhealthy impact on your life.


Releasing what’s real

When you address bad clusters you totally transform the ways in which you communicate with other people. You’d be blown away by how strongly bad clusters influence your relationship with loved ones.

Understanding how the power of bad clusters can influence communication to a level that it can destroy great relationships will protect you from so much trouble and pain.

Understanding this completely changed the way Lauren saw her relationship with her best friend Sarah. Lauren came to me for help when an argument she had with Sarah became so heated, it threatened to tear their life long relationship apart. The moment Lauren understood how her own subconscious sabotaged her communication with Sarah and eliminated these hurtful subconscious programs during her Progressive Mental Alignment session, she immediately contacted Sarah to explain to her what she found out in just one session. Sarah got enthused and felt intuitively that what she said to Lauren during their disagreement was not reasonable either. So she wanted to know more to find out what drove her to communicate in such a painful way with her best friend.

They were both determined to make it work. After I did a session with Sarah she was blown away by all of the connections she made between the subconscious content and the feelings during their disagreement and painful experiences from her past that had nothing to do with Lauren at all! She felt so relieved and finally understood completely why Lauren was so enthused after her session.

They discovered that their disagreement had nothing to do with the content of the argument but that they were both reacting as a result of activated bad clusters in their subconscious. By becoming aware of this toxic content in their subconscious they were able to understand how it lead them into irrational and sabotaging assumptions and beliefs about themselves and each other.

After their discovery and their healing, their friendship became closer than ever before. Today they’re able to communicate about almost anything in peace. Removing the negative subconscious energy of their bad clusters motivated understanding on a deep level and they instantly realized that their friend would never intentionally hurt them in any way. So now they can freely talk about subjects that would have been considered too touchy to discuss before.

They understood that Progressive Mental Alignment offered so much more than just the improvement of their friendship. So they decided to continue their soul searching by applying the Progressive Mental Alignment method from the comfort of home using the Progressive Mental Alignment Homestudy Kit.

With unnecessary toxic energy out of the way, you’ll experience more clarity about your own thoughts and feelings. You’ll gain the confidence and courage to speak your truth and offer a compassionate ear to the people you love most.


Don’t keep you truth captive any longer. Release it into the universe and let it free you.

Learn about the most powerful subconscious forces behind all of your behaviors and beliefs!

Lack of money can’t stop you from getting healthy.

I have to share this heartwarming story with you that was shared with me recently.

Dear Ingrid,

My name is Isabelle. I am a loyal reader of your blogs. I have to admit that I was skeptical in the beginning but it also made me curious. Deep down I felt that it was all so logical what you described about the brain.

Unfortunately, my financial circumstances did not allow me to buy the Progressive Mental Alignment products or attend the seminars. Based on your suggestion in one of your emails, I Googled Progressive Mental Alignment and found a lot of amazing helpful information, especially on YouTube and several Progressive Mental Alignment websites. I ordered the book Desirable Power by Jacob Korthuis, the founder of Progressive Mental Alignment. I finished reading it in just two days! Mindblowing!  

I was surprised to discover how easy it is to use Progressive Mental Alignment; that is to say as long as I was willing to allow my subconscious to come up with whatever it wants.  

Before I started my subconscious journey I suffered from depression, migraines and fibromyalgia. I tried so many things to get better, but at best it gave me just temporary relief of some of my problems. 

After some practice I got the hang of it. This opened the door to my first real self-help Progressive Mental Alignment session. I was used to at least two serious migraine attacks per week. After my first session, using the Progressive Mental Alignment self-help technique, I was free of migraines for a whole month! Based on the insight Progressive Mental Alignment gave me to be alert for triggers, I did a session instantly when the migraine returned. It took me less than an hour to discover the root cause of that particular migraine attack. During the session the migraine disappeared. That’s more than five months ago and no migraine ever since. Can you imagine how happy this makes me?  

How Isabelle created solutions for her and others

Of course I was thrilled to read about how she used Progressive Mental Alignment to cure her migraines. But I am impressed what Isabelle wrote in the second part of her email.

This changed my life so substantially I could not stop talking about the insight and results Progressive Mental Alignment offered me. Some of my friends are in similar financial situations. Specifically, three of my friends showed instant interest in what I told them about Progressive Mental Alignment.

We decided to sit together and I would tell them everything I learned so far from Progressive Mental Alignment. We agreed that we would help each other by coming together on a weekly basis. We applied what we learned from the Internet and the book Desirable Power.

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One of my friends (36) suffered from epilepsy. Even with medication she still had seizures, at least once a week. The last two months she’s been free of seizures. My other friend has Crohn’s disease (intestinal inflammations) that caused her a lot of pain. Her health improved at least 50% during the last 3 months. She is sure that her Crohn’s disease will soon be cured completely.

Because we experienced improvements in our health, we decided to create our own little “Progressive Mental Alignment Health Club” 🙂 . We all realized that Progressive Mental Alignment had even more to offer than we already knew, but for that, we did not have the financial means. So we decided to buy 1 Progressive Mental Alignment Home Study Kit, together. Because of the payment options that was easily doable for the four of us.

You might have already figured out how this continued. The Progressive Mental Alignment Home Study Kit taught us more details about the self-help technique and also how to treat others with Progressive Mental Alignment. Our little Progressive Mental Alignment Health Club now has 11 members and we treat each other on a regular basis. Although some grow faster then others, we all experience significant improvement in our health and behavior. On a regular basis, people tell us that we changed and look so much happier than before.

Ingrid, I write this to you to thank you for all of the beautiful and enlightening blogs you write. Please keep doing this. If you think you can help other people by sharing this email, please feel free to do so.

I am lucky that most of my friends are open-minded. They do not allow themselves to dwell and drown in their problems, but are constantly searching for answers and solutions. That is why we started our personal Progressive Mental Alignment Health Club. If we can do that, others can do it to.

Again, thank you and keep up the good work, and who knows, maybe we will meet in person in the future at one of the Progressive Mental Alignment seminars.

Kind regards,


I think Isabelle’s email speaks for itself. Her email gave me goose bumps. I see this kind of strength and passion in many among us. It is this mind-set, this unstoppable drive that decides our health and future!

Don’t allow yourself to get consumed by a problem. Focus always on how many solutions you can come-up with to solve the problem. Isabelle showed us all a beautiful solution for her financial problem.

Dare to live – dare to take action!

Place the power of transformation in your own hands and heal your deepest wounds.