What is your reaction when someone greets you that way? Do you own it? Does it make you smile or do you automatically reject it internally?
According to some interesting stats about body awareness, more than likely, you don’t even believe it when someone tells you you’re beautiful. In fact, the website DoSomething.org notes that a whopping 91 percent of women are unhappy with their bodies, 58 percent of college aged girls feel pressured to be a certain weight, and more than 40 percent of women would consider cosmetic surgery in the future.
Have you ever felt that pang of self-consciousness when you just can’t seem to find the right thing to wear or you arrive at a party and start questioning how you look? How about the constant comparing most women do with other women about weight, hair, makeup, or body type? It’s common among women and it’s rooted in our self-value.
So why are so many of us so unhappy about our appearance? We know that female babies and toddlers aren’t concerned at all about their self-image which means that we are not born with all of those negative feelings about ourselves. So where does it start?
Like all belief systems, they are based in our life experiences and in understanding how those experiences impact us every day. Some of these experiences date way back to our childhood and while they differ from person to person there IS a common theme of feelings rooted deeply in fear, although we are usually not aware of it.
As a simple example, let’s look at the experience of Susie, a 6 year old girl, excitedly preparing for a birthday party. She puts on her prettiest dress, her shiniest shoes, and biggest bow! She feels great and can’t wait to see her friends. Her mom drops her off and the little girl knocks on the door. When the door opens, she sees the birthday girl standing there in her pajamas! Susie looks around in a panic as she realizes that this is a pajama party and she is WAY over dressed. The room starts spinning as the other children begin to giggle and stare at her. She turns around but her mom has already driven away! All kinds of emotions begin stirring up inside of her, all at once. Some girls might experience this just as a very unpleasant situation, but not Susie. She panics! She feels dizzy; her heart is racing, and her muscles tense up, and she starts to sweat.
During panicked states like the one described above, our subconscious connects certain details from these experiences with the negative emotions felt, forming what is referred to in Progressive Mental Alignment as bad clusters. It’s important to understand that these bad clusters are stored inside of the subconscious brain, without our knowing. Despite that, the emotions radiated from these bad clusters are felt strongly in our bodies every time they get activated, even decades after they were created.
While it is impossible to spontaneously remember the content of a bad cluster, you can use Progressive Mental Alignment to easily trace the bad clusters. The feelings that radiate from bad clusters are extremely powerful and they can be triggered by anything that was present in the negative situation! A color, a sound, or even a smell can trigger parts of a bad cluster and create instant feelings of insecurity and self-doubt.
Using the example above, imagine that perhaps they were baking and eating sugar cookies at this party. Susie focused on the smell and taste of the cookies to avoid looking at the faces staring at her. During her panic, Susie’s brain processed these sugar cookies in a way that associated them with keeping her away from pain. Later in life, the thought of sugar cookies always made her feel safe but she never knew why! Even more, she stored eating sugar cookies in her brain as a source of comfort in times of emotional panic associated with insecurity. This type of subconscious connection can later be activated and seriously interfere with reaching your diet goals, further aggravating self image.
The unified brain model of Progressive Mental Alignment provides a technique that allows you to trace the root-source of your negative emotions and to transform these bad clusters once and for all. This way you will permanently overcome their powerful control over your life. Once you focus on the triggers that activate bad clusters in every day life and apply the Progressive Mental Alignment technique, you’ll notice that these feelings come from a much deeper place inside of you. It’s a place that a simple compliment, or other techniques and methods, can’t reach or fix- but Progressive Mental Alignment can.
We know, through Progressive Mental Alignment, that once all of the active bad clusters related to a negative self-image are revealed and transformed, the dark feelings tied to insecurity will disappear instantly. Progressive Mental Alignment provides us with this wonderful opportunity!
Issues with body awareness are too familiar for many of us. Wouldn’t it be freeing to not have to experience these bouts of inadequacy any longer? To wake up feeling proud, satisfied, and confident? This vision IS a reality.
In the Progressive Mental Alignment Home Study Kit Founder Jacob Korthuis guides you through the amazing process of finding and transforming bad clusters. Improving your self-image is only the beginning. Bad clusters are the reason for all sorts of fears, emotional problems, health complaints and setbacks in our life. It’s a groundbreaking first step into a happier more fulfilled you!
The Home Study Kit shows you how to practice Progressive Mental Alignment on your own and how to guide your loved ones through the process as well. I always recommend the Home Study program to my clients and encourage them to grab a group of friends that are also seeking answers about any numbers of health or behavioral issues they may struggle with. I advise my clients to buy just one kit. Share the information and treat others! I always love hearing about your success stories after using the Progressive Mental Alignment Technique and would be delighted to hear your story!
Get to know yourself on a deeper level. Fall in love with the person your see in the mirror. The treasure is already yours.
You just have to uncover it. Isn’t that beautiful?
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It is Resolution Season. Have you created any intentions for this New Year?
The magic of New Year’s Eve lies in the opportunity to reinvent yourself. But what happens when that magic fades? All too often it does. In fact, it’s reported that only 8 percent of us actually fulfill the intentions we set at the beginning of the year.
It seems that the energy that motivates us to reinvent ourselves is overpowered by a familiar force that pushes us off track. Were you set on losing a few pounds but fell off of the diet after a month? Did you promise yourself you’d be more organized but once again found yourself in that familiar mess? Maybe you made a commitment to end a bad habit that you were only able to quit temporarily.
You are not alone. This cycle is common and happens to the best of us. But there’s great news! The power to change is not only completely possible; it lies in your own hands. It starts by thinking beyond your goals.
It begins by understanding yourself and the unique images that are stored in your subconscious. Once you understand how your subconscious works, you’ll realize that you don’t have to start brand new every year; instead, you can make important improvements every single day!
Through Progressive Mental Alignment, we learn that the personal experiences stored in our subconscious powerfully impact our daily actions and can often prevent us from accomplishing our goals.
Let’s start with a simple exercise.
What do you feel when you think about riding a bicycle? Think about that image for a second.
For many of us, our experience with riding a bicycle began as a child. Maybe we remember learning how to ride a bike with our parents, or riding our bicycle down a trail with our best friends. As you matured, maybe riding your bike was a stress reliever, a form of meditation, or a way to innocently slip away from everyday life. All of these images are positive, peaceful, fun, memories stored in your subconscious about riding a bicycle.
But what if you had a completely different experience with bikes? What if the first time you rode a bike you rolled down a hill uncontrollably and broke your leg? There was terror, pain, and uncertainty wrapped up in the whole incident.
That terrifying experience could have caused you to store a negative feeling about bicycles in your subconscious without you even knowing it! That’s because what you don’t remember about that accident will be even more powerful than what you DO recall. During emergency events such as the accident described above, our bodies fall into a flight or fight response that is genetically programmed to protect us.
During that altered state, everything that the brain observes is processed incorrectly because of the body’s dedicated focus on protecting you. Progressive Mental Alignment calls these incorrectly stored images, bad clusters. These bad clusters contain information you do not remember about the incident but they emanate powerful emotions that you feel throughout your life and that impact your daily decisions in a significant way. (For more information about what bad clusters are see: Bad Clusters: A short-circuiting in our brain, Part 1 and Bad Clusters: A short-circuiting in our brain Part 2. Panic Attacks: just a normal day at the Zoo)
As time passed you lost interest in bicycles and even declined to ride bikes with your friends. All you know is that you don’t really want to ride a bike but don’t understand WHY you don’t. The answer lies in that original negative experience!
Now you’re in the present moment. Your spouse and kids love riding bikes together on the trails and they want you to join! So your resolution for the New Year is that you will start riding more with them! And yes, maybe even start the exercise that will get rid of those few pounds that you believe you need to lose.
Even though your intention is real, once you begin these activities, you will subconsciously activate all of the anxiety and fear associated with the bad clusters and so the promise you made at the start of the year is already falling apart.
Just knowing that this is the reason why you haven’t accomplished this goal is powerful enough! But knowing WHY is just as important.
The motivation involved in accomplishing goals is simply an emotion that is part of your physiology. The book ‘Desirable Power’ describes physiology as “the total of all physical and energy processes in our body that make it possible for us to stay alive.”
While 10 to 15 percent of our physiology is genetic, an astounding 85 to 90 percent is controlled by our previous experiences within our subconscious, also known as our comparison material. The brain uses this comparison material to process all of the information that is picked up by our senses.
Based on how our brains work, it would be easy to understand our avoidance of bikes or even exercise based on the negative emotions and images that arise related to these activities.
While you may have every intention of riding a bike, when the negative emotions of the original incident are triggered, the goal cannot be accomplished. Your brain simply won’t allow it.
Can you even imagine what you can accomplish once those nagging triggers are gone for good?!!
Of course, this doesn’t just apply to inhibiting thoughts about bike riding. This simple example can be applied to all of the goals you rationally want to achieve but for a reason unclear to your conscious mind, you were never able to accomplish.
The great news is that this does not have to be permanent. There is an important science behind removing these road blocks.
With these negative connections out of the way, the possibilities are endless!
In the book ‘Desirable Power’ you can learn how to find these negatively stored events, also known as bad clusters, and reprocess them so that you’re able to accomplish the goals you’ve always wanted to.
The power is all yours to begin living the life you’ve always envisioned. It’s the life you deserve.
A life without boundaries…isn’t that the most important goal after all?
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It is the Dalai Lama who asserts “To be aware of a single shortcoming within oneself is more useful than to be aware of a thousand in somebody else.” Maybe it’s because we can’t truly change the world until we change ourselves. It’s certainly a popular concept and one alluded to in songs, poems, and by many of the world’s greatest leaders throughout history. Somehow, we’ve always understood that our effort to improve ourselves is one of the most important ways we can contribute to global healing. But the question has always been how?
Change is much easier to plan than to execute. It’s because change is uncomfortable, confusing, challenging, never ending and often seemingly impossible. Our past and our daily experiences help frame our behavior and our beliefs and no human is devoid of the imperfections, bad habits, and toxic thought patterns picked up along the way. It’s a lifetime of baggage not easily disposed of.
Today science is showing us that change may not be as difficult as once believed. Personal growth is possible at a cellular level and the power of transformation is all in our hands. One modern scientific idea, called Progressive Mental Alignment, shows us that the roadmap to a healthier happier life begins with understanding the basic functions of our brains and the process by which information is stored.
Awareness is key.
In a webinar hosted by founder and neuroscientist, Jacob Korthuis, the scientifically grounded Progressive Mental Alignment technique is introduced as our time’s most powerful vehicle on the road to positive transformation.
The technique is based upon correcting bad clusters that form in our brain during significantly negative life events that activate an emergency response in our bodies.
During this emergency state, the brain does not process information per usual, instead focusing all energy on survival. As a result, anything picked up by our senses during the negative event is processed abnormally and attached to the negative feelings associated with the incident. A smell, a sound, a color or anything processed by our brain during this experience becomes a source of negativity.
The Progressive Mental Alignment technique allows us to subconsciously identify and remove these bad clusters, leaving us more energetic, enlightened, and exhilarated. It’s a permanent change and a significant step in the direction of total transformation.
The fact that as much as 75 percent of all physical and emotional ailments are caused by bad clusters makes this a significantly important milestone in self-awareness and quality of life issues.
The technique, created for accessibility and use on an individual level really places the power of change in each of our hands. It’s real world transformation, one bad cluster at a time.
Welcome into the New Year. If you allow me I’ll provide you with new insight and tools that make it easy to create positive changes in your life.
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“You are unique!” We’ve all heard that time and time again. But what is it that actually makes you unique?
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It’s your specific characteristics that distinguish you from others. Characteristics like your personality, all your traits with all the quirks, rituals and habits, that makes you typically YOU!
The majority of us want other people to like and love us for who we are. Strange enough though, most people are to shy to sum-up all their good qualities, but have no hesitation listing what they believe to be their bad characteristics and habits. Are you familiar with that feeling?
Would you agree that you would radiate a completely different energy to others if you would be balanced in your opinion about yourself, instead of putting more emphasis on your (alleged) negative qualities than your positive ones? Would the way you perceive yourself not reflect in anything you radiate to others?
It’s okay to be skeptical towards yourself. It will keep you on your toes and stimulates you to get the best out of yourself. But if it’s not in a balanced way because you criticize and question everything you do, it will devaluate who you really are.
An unrealistic negative self-image will exhaust you. By understanding how our brain works, you will know that an unrealistic negative self-image can even lead to serious health and relationship problems. You will also understand how to overcome shyness and create a balanced self-image.
Are you up for a daring exercise to increase your self-appreciation? Here’s what you can do:
Write down ALL your great qualities, ALL your characteristics that makes you, YOU.
Also write down your qualities that other people told you that they appreciate you for. Create this list without any boundaries of shyness! This will usually increase your awareness about how you already inspired other people.
To deepen your understanding of how to inspire others even more, you can make another list of the people that inspire you. Write also down how they did this. This will give you additional ideas and tools to perfect your power to inspire others.
Who are the people that said the right words at the right time to encourage or help you to overcome a problem or hesitation? Who helped you take the next step, inspired you to make a great decision or finish that job successfully? And in what way did they do that?
I hope from the bottom of my heart that you have (or will find) several inspiring people like that in your life. Who are the people that believe in you, see you the way you are and totally accept the whole you and not just a part of it?
Often, not so much is needed to be that kind of person. Lending a helping hand without somebody asking you for it, a phone call, an e-mail, a postcard, just to let the other know you’re thinking of them. Sometimes that’s all that is needed to be inspiring and saying the right words at the right time. Or sometimes, just being there without saying anything is the perfect thing to do.
We all need each other and in most cases it’s the little things, the things that are so easy to do that we forget. We’re all longing for the feeling that we’re not alone; the secure feeling that there is always someone out there for us.
Ready for our next little exercise?
Ask a good friend or family member how they see you? You will notice that they will come up with all kinds of positive traits and qualities about you. They will even illustrate this with stories from your past to confirm these qualities.
The result is always a win/win! They will definitely provide you with a much more positive image of yourself than your own self-image. And even….even if they might come up with a negative quality, even that is still a “win” for you. Why? Because if you feel, umm… that person is right about that, I’ve never seen it like that before, they’ve handed you the opportunity to improve yourself and become even more likable than before.
After you become aware of what your unique qualities are, you can start to perfect them to inspire others. To find role models who inspire, just ask yourself: “Who inspired me?” What did they do that inspired you? How did this inspire you and give you the courage to take your next step in life?
Do you belong to that large group of people that deal with this nagging feeling that you are never good enough for others, or are you unable to love yourself in a balanced way? Are you always busy giving in and sharing with others? Are they the right people to share your time and energy with?
If you have difficulties with these little exercises, ask yourself why, or what is even much more important: are you willing to have a balanced self-image and a good feeling about yourself?
We are not born with negative feelings and sabotaging beliefs about ourselves. They are created during our life. There’s a fantastic book called “Desirable Power” that I write about a lot, and it explains exactly how these sabotaging beliefs are created, and more importantly, how to transform a negative self-image into a balanced and positive one.
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What do you experience in your body when you look at this picture above?
As a chocolate lover myself, I feel water in my mouth and a smile appears just thinking how it would feel to take a huge bite in this delicious looking cupcake. I almost feel the chocolate in my mouth and hear the crisping of the chunks of chocolate. Did I mention the gooey caramel inside the cupcake? MMMM the urge to have one grows by the minute. The growling sounds of my stomach encourage me even more to jump in the car and get one right now! And sure, if you don’t like chocolate at all, you will have a total different reaction in your body but that is what I just felt.
Have you ever asked yourself how it’s possible that by just seeing a picture (like this cupcake) your body reacts this way?
Your body responds this way because your brain connects the visual image of the cupcake with previously stored experiences of eating chocolate, cup cakes, caramel, etc.
These previously stored experiences do not only contain images of chocolate, cupcake, caramel, etc., but also the feelings that created the physical response when you actually ate these things.
By activating these images in your subconscious database, it also activates the feelings (physiological commands) that are connected to it. This is causing physical reactions like water in your mouth and other related feelings that you experience when you look at the picture of the cupcake. You have no control over these physical responses because it is your subconscious brain who causes this by executing the physiological commands that are attached to the activated cupcake images of the past. Your subconscious does not think or feel. It works like a stimulus response “machine,” comparable to your computer.
Your physical responses after seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting or touching something are primarily caused by activated similar observations and experiences in the past that are stored in your subconscious brain. Your body will respond instantly and you have absolutely no control over it. It is based on strict rules of how the subconscious works and it will never deviate from those rules. These rules of processing sensory input and activating connected emotions counts for everything that you see, hear, smell, taste or touch.
And yes, these rules also apply on how you perceive other people. Your brain will automatically compare every little detail about them with already existing similar comparison material in your subconscious.
Your subconscious is processing (on average) a million times more sensory data than you will ever become aware of in the conscious part of your brain. It will not just compare the overall image of another person, but every little detail like facial expressions, the sound of their voice, words they speak, how they move, details of their face like mouth, eyes, eyebrows, and much, much more.
Out of an amazing amount of activated subconscious comparison material, your subconscious will select the most important images and executes the attached feelings.
Are you familiar with the idea that just by seeing a person you immediately have an opinion about them? This is just a brief explanation of why we like or dislike certain people without exactly knowing why.
We have five external senses that play a role in how we interpreted and feel about what we perceive, but let us focus today on just one of our senses – on what we see through our eyes. Let’s do a little fun exercise to explore the power of your own subconscious:
I want to invite you to look at each of these pictures. Do not just glance at the picture but keep looking at the same picture until you become aware of how your body responds to this picture.
- Become aware of what you feel in your body.
- Where do you feel something in your body?
- What is it exactly what you feel there?
Once you become aware of how your body responds, go to the next picture and become aware of how that picture makes you feel (Where and what). Okay, lets get started and have some fun!
P.S. Also become aware of the facial expression that you make right now just by looking at this picture. I’m not a fan of lemons myself so if you have that too, I’m sure you can picture my expression 😉
Did you feel the differences in feelings between one picture and the other? Some people feel this very clearly and some hardly feel anything. This is not primarily because they are genetically different. There is another reason why some people feel a lot and others almost “nothing.” But about that later in another blog. I hope you enjoyed doing this little exercise with me. For now I’m still fixated on the cupcake so I’m hopping in my car and getting myself a treat! 🙂
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In one of my previous blogs I promised we would talk more about how our friend mechanism creates misleading belief systems when bad clusters are activated in our brain.
I’m referring here to those beliefs that interfere with reaching your goals. You clearly feel you can reach your goal, but somehow it never happens quite the way you imagined it because there seems to be always be something else that hinders you in your process in making it happen.
By knowing that these sabotaging processes are created in your subconscious brain and understanding how these mechanisms work, you will get the insight on how to change that. This will not only stop the sabotaging interference, but will also provide you with the tools you’ll need to reach your goals even faster.
When it comes to our feelings, we are true masters of lying and deceiving ourselves with ‘great’ belief systems. But because this is all prepared in our subconscious we are not automatically aware of it. It is not a conscious process of weighing every pro and con. It feels like it “just happens” and before you know it, you say or do something that is sabotaging your goal-oriented process.
In many of these cases you ask yourself later on: “Why didn’t I say no?” or, ”Why in the world did I make that decision?” Do you recognize this kind of scenario? And the most remarkable part of this is that you “believe” why you said yes and why you made that decision because it seemed so “logical” and genuinely was the best thing to do at that time.
The real reason why you’ve created these sabotaging beliefs that felt so right at that moment lies within activated bad clusters. The joint venture of your bad clusters and the protecting interference of your friend mechanism form a very dangerous time bomb of interference. And who wants to walk around with a time bomb in their body if there is an easy solution to defuse it?
In order to transform this mechanism and conquer its negative effect, you will first have to identify it.
And like I said in my previous blog you will be your own Sherlock Holmes, and will discover how to reach your goals effortlessly and on top of that, will discover a lot of “precious diamonds of energy” that just are dormant in your brain, just waiting to get discovered.
When the sensory details you observe now and in the future are also present in a bad cluster, these details will activate the bad cluster. As a result, you will feel the same negative feelings in your body as during the bad cluster experience from your past.
These negative feelings will activate your friend mechanism. This mechanism comes into play whenever unpleasant or unwanted feelings come up. The way it reacts is controlled by how you programmed this mechanism during the original bad cluster situation. So in a way, your friend simply obeys what you’ve taught it in the past.
We program our friend mechanism to react in two specific ways:
1. To create behavioral rituals
2. To create misleading beliefs
Imagine yourself at a party where your friends invited a lot of people you didn’t know. Suddenly one of the guests asks you something that activates a painful memory for you. It is a topic that you typically try to avoid because every time this topic crosses your mind you feel overwhelmed with negative emotions.
The person who brought up this topic obviously doesn’t get the message by your avoidance of answers and body language (how annoying is that….) and keeps talking and addressing the topic. You feel the urge to react in a more direct way because you really don’t want to talk about that topic.
Now your friend mechanism kicks in by activating several belief systems like: “It is rude to walk away?” Or: “If I express, I don’t want to talk about that subject, they’ll think that I’m weak,” or any other belief that stops you from reaching your goal to end this conversation.
So you follow your beliefs, keep up your appearance, stay and keep listening and you hope the emotion you feel will disappear. But as hard as you try, your feelings intensify and you can’t stop the tears that are welling-up in your eyes.
Are you familiar with situations similar to this example? If so, try to go back in your mind to one of those similar situations. Now ask yourself, what is it that I have to do to keep myself from bursting into tears? What is the first thing that comes up from what you did, and usually do, to cope with your feelings in these kinds of situations?
We all have developed different mechanisms to suppress unwanted emotions, and this takes on the form of certain rituals or habits. Every person has their own set of rituals and their own specific behavioral pattern to cope with unwanted emotions. Let’s figure out how this works.
The rituals of your friend mechanism
Your friend’s ritual consists of familiar acts and behavior patterns. To understand this better let’s analyze the above example for a moment. Keep in mind that you created these rituals/habits yourself. Once you become aware of these patterns you are also the only one (here comes the good part) that can change them into ones that really serve you!
Let’s do a little exercise:
Go back in your mind to a situation you felt unwanted emotion rise to an uncomfortable level and relive that situation in your mind until you become aware of these feelings again. Now allow this feeling without suppressing them.
- What do you do with your eyes when you feel the tears welling up?
- Do you squeeze them tightly or start to blink faster?
- Do you begin to stare or start looking around, up, down?
- If so what’s your most helpful detail to focus on?
- What happens to your breathing?
- Does it become shallow or deep?
- Do you hold your breath or start to breathe faster?
- What do you do with your hands?
- Do you leave them hanging or make a fist?
- Do you start to move your hands or play with your clothes or another object?
- What do you say to yourself when you feel these emotions?
- Something like: “Not now” or “I feel nothing” or “don’t cry” or “I’m not a baby.”
These are just a few of many rituals and behavior patterns your friend mechanism can use to suppress unwanted feelings. We all created many of these friend rituals and inhibiting beliefs during our life but only very few people are consciously aware of this. As long as you are not aware of it you cannot change it.
The behavior patterns, friend rituals and belief systems to suppress unwanted emotions are typically yours because they are always based on your personal experiences in life. Unfortunately, when these rituals and beliefs are empowered by activated bad clusters, be assured that such belief systems will never serve you. Many people suffer from a whole lot of these limiting beliefs like: “I’m not good enough”, or, “this will never work”, or, “nobody loves me”, etc.
During your life you created these rituals and beliefs and your friend mechanism carries them out to make you feel as comfortable as possible in uncomfortable situations. But to do so it can only use previously installed rituals and beliefs that comforted you before. Considering the soothing effect of this mechanism it is a really good friend; because it will always lead you as far as possible away from pain.
But this mechanism will be out of balance once activated bad clusters come into the picture. Because you are not consciously aware of the content of bad clusters, you will experience the negative feelings that are carried out in your body once the bad cluster is activated.
These activations can happen any time in any situation. The only thing needed to make that happen are present observations of similar details like colors, objects, words, sounds, smells, facial expressions, touch etc. that are also present in a bad cluster. In other words, even a happy event (like a party) can activate a painful bad cluster in your subconscious.
This creates a problem! Why? Because the activated bad cluster feelings are in no way fitting for the situation you are in right now (like being at a fun party). Now your friend mechanism has to get real creative to “sell” it to yourself why you feel these negative feelings, these “mood swings”. In this creative process we come up with all kinds of (incorrect) beliefs about why we feel the way we do.
For instance, you are at a gathering and from one moment to the other you’re very nauseous. You try to sit differently and sit more straight, take a sip of water and hope the nausea will go away. If these tricks (rituals) do not work your beliefs start to kick in rapidly. As a true master of deception you come up with the most “reasonably” and “logical” sounding beliefs with only one purpose, to lead you away from the real problem, the painful and nauseating content of the bad cluster.
Your friend mechanism could come up with beliefs like: “It’s definitely the temperature in the room, its way too warm here. I should not have eaten just before I came here. I always get nauseated when I’m nervous. I’m sure these people do not like me here and that makes me feel sick. I think I’m getting the flue,” and the beliefs go on and on.
The purpose of all these beliefs is to convince yourself of what the reason is why you feel nauseated. In reality you comfort yourself with incorrect beliefs that lead you away from the real, but more painful, content of the bad cluster. You think you solved the problem, but in fact you pushed the revealing of the real cause further and further away from the conscious part of your brain.
The only thing what will happen with all these beliefs is cover up why you suddenly really felt the negative feelings in your body. Your body wants to tell you something and you are the only one that can listen to it. But you can only do that after you become aware of how your brain creates these friend mechanisms.
In one of my upcoming blogs I will explain further how these feelings and rituals create sabotaging belief systems. If you want to start right away you can find a much more detailed explanation in the textbook for Progressive Mental Alignment, Desirable Power by Jacob Korthuis.
Once you understand that process it will provide you with the insight how you can influence this process in the most positive way to change your life.
And if you allow me I’m here to help you with that!