As the sights and sounds of the season surround us so do familiar feelings and memories. It makes me wonder, what’s the very first picture that pops up for you when it comes to the holidays from childhood?
You’d be surprised by how much meaning even the smallest things can hold! From a particular movie, ornament or wrapping paper to a favorite dish or familiar activity- ANYTHING can get you jogging down memory lane. So it’s no surprise that this time of year is packed with plenty of details that stimulate the senses.
For too many people, that means the activation of not-so-nice feelings that overwhelm them year after year. Known as the holiday blues, this powerful emotional battle is incredibly common and highly misunderstood.
There’s 1 reason the holiday blues are so common
Movies, commercials, billboards, news stories, magazines, music, social media and even email serve to paint fairytale pictures of perfect family reunions, treasured traditions and overall excitement and joy. While many of us do feel connected to these sorts of images and even uplifted by them, plenty of others struggle with sustaining positivity during the holiday months.
For many people, the holidays mark the start of a powerful emotional battle that plagues them the entire season, year after year. Sometimes the pain of losing a loved one hurts even deeper than usual during the holidays and replaces what was once a happy time. For others, the season is filled with triggers of a painful childhood in which they didn’t enjoy the holidays or were completely deprived of them. For other people the thought of bringing dysfunctional families together triggers an onslaught of emotions associated with those relationships and in some situations it’s a matter of loneliness, financial struggle or various holiday pressures. There are even people who have NO idea why they feel so down during the holidays!
No matter the reason, the real cause of the most powerful negative feelings always has a deeper source, rooted in the painful pieces of the person’s past. Unless the emotions from these past experiences are resolved permanently, they’ll continue to impact your emotional health.
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Can you think of a past event that was significantly sad? Whether it was a funeral, a break up, an emotional goodbye, the loss of a job or something else, we have all experienced sad and even dark times. When you think about that moment, what do you feel and where in your body do you feel it? If you still feel those emotions TODAY as powerfully as you did back then, that means there is a much more powerful source for your emotions. It’s a source that was not processed in a correct way. It’s all rooted in your past.
Why memories are always measured in emotion
I can personally relate to the mixed emotions some feel this time of year. My memories contain a mix of some fun moments and not so happy ones. I do have warm feelings associated with getting the ornament boxes from the attic, feeling like we were hunting for treasure and decorating the Christmas tree with my sisters and mom! I remember green, red, yellow and white lights and a golden angel that sat on the table and made a tingling sound when the candlelight’s around the angel, were on. There was a holiday themed tablecloth and pieces of chocolate cookies, and sprinkles on the tree. All of these small but bright images create happy feelings but as a child, they were short lived and squeezed in between the not-so-fun tension and unspoken words that drove the heavy and uncomfortable energy in the house, along with the pressure to keep up appearances as the ‘happy functional’ family we were not!
Can you relate to some of these memories? I’ve spoken to many people who do relate! Unfortunately for them the painful moments overpowered happy ones and still ‘call the shots’ as far as the holidays are concerned. The more pain a memory contains, the more it impacts your life!
One client in particular, Jackie, sought help after being unable to overcome the holiday blues, no matter what she did. Leaving her childhood home, moving to a different state and even starting her own traditions with her own family did nothing to alleviate the negative emotions that crept up at the end of every fall.
When her feelings and mood started to impact her family’s holiday experience, she knew it was time for a permanent solution- and that meant addressing the real cause of her negative emotions: Her past.
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Why healing means putting the past in its place
It turns out that when details from her past re-appeared in her present environment (and they did every holiday!) they would trigger the strongest negative emotions associated with her childhood.
These details could be anything! From the shadow of the Christmas tree against the night’s light, to the colors of a particular ornament or gift, to the face shape of a family member.
In our session, Jackie was able to put the past back in its place so it wouldn’t affect her any longer.
The best part about it for Jackie is that she didn’t need to remove the Christmas tree, or throw away a particular decoration to avoid her emotions. Now these various holiday regulars don’t impact her the same way and in fact, she is able to enjoy them.
This is why it’s so important in cases of depressive symptoms, to focus on the root source of the issue. Until you address the source behind your feelings, you can only encounter ‘temporary’ relief.
In Jackie’s case, the associated ‘bad’ feelings melted away instantly and for the first time, she truly began to enjoy the season.
This is what permanent change feels like
Does Jackie’s story sound like something you recognize in your own life? If so, you’re not alone. There are many people who struggle to join the ‘joy’ associated with the season- even if they don’t show it!
But not everyone is forcing themselves to enjoy the holidays. In fact, many people truly enjoy this time and are noticeably altered by it. What really strikes me is the extended human spirit this time of year. It feels as if people are generally more accepting and forgiving of each other. There is a collective green light for kindness that prompts people to kick up the connection with others and become more focused on peace. It’s why there is no more perfect time for true healing! Wouldn’t it be nice to start enjoying the holidays and experience peace all year round?
The truth is that it doesn’t matter whether your unresolved negative emotions are rooted in a holiday event or not. The impact of using Progressive Mental Alignment is felt in area of your life and in every single season of the year. It’s an awesome feeling not to be weighed down by the past and really the best gift you could ever give yourself!
Think about the prospect of an actual solution. When you decide to go for it, you’ll open up to the greatest possibilities life has to offer.
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A new campaign launched by the Skin care company Sanctuary, is urging young women to just ‘let it go’ in response to rising stress. The campaign includes a video of women in their later years, offering advice to their younger selves. It urges young women to let go of perfectionism, pressure, and self-hatred and to embrace relaxation, presence and enjoyment. In essence, it’s a movement for happiness.
It’s an important message for almost 50 percent of women who say they feel ‘moderately or extremely stressed’ and another 40 percent who feel like they’re about to burn out.
Chances are, you can relate to the pressure of keeping up with life. But what are we keeping up with exactly?
You know it’s a problem. We ALL know it.
We can talk all day about the factors that trigger stress including the accessibility of more choice, 24-hour technological resources, more demanding jobs, self-consciousness, pressures that greet us at every turn and mobile phones which we seem to never turn off.
We know that we should focus more time on just ‘being’ and less time on doing because that is the space that allows us to breath in what really matters and to get more enjoyment out of life. If you’ve ever taken a break from it all, you know how beneficial it is.
But how many of these ‘awakenings’ have you had? How many times have you committed to being more present, smelling the roses and prioritizing your wellbeing? And the even bigger question is- why don’t the effects of these time outs ever seem to last very long?
I mean, it’s not like we really want to return to the chaos but we always do, even though we know logically that it’s not good for us. It’s like that bad habit you can’t seem to break no matter what you do. It’s a process most of us are not even aware of and often feels like an “urge” to return to those old and powerful behaviors that are so familiar. Vacations and ‘me time’ are fantastic but there is no point, if you continue returning to life ‘as usual’.
It’s time to stop talking about temporary escapes from your stressful reality and time to start transforming your daily life so that you don’t need to run away from it anymore.
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Is there a more permanent solution for maintaining balance and presence in your daily life? YES. But the solution requires understanding the most powerful drivers of your behavior.
Your daily behavior is the direct result of your most powerful beliefs about yourself and about the world. Evaluate your own beliefs for a moment.
What comes to mind when you think about what it means to be a woman? A mother? A wife or girlfriend. What do you think about friendship, accomplishment or love? These thoughts are born out of your most powerful beliefs. Think about how your actions and motives reflect these beliefs. Then, you can begin to determine if these beliefs are helping you or hurting you. Are these beliefs creating behaviors that benefit you or sabotage you?
Think for a moment about a recent situation in your everyday life. It could have been today, yesterday or last week. It could have happen at home, work or school. It was a moment in which you proceeded with a behavior that you knew wasn’t good for you- but you did it anyway. What happened in your mind right before you did it? What was the belief that popped up and convinced you to do it despite your better intentions? It could be the tiniest thought that points to a greater belief and deeper source of your behavior.
Another good way to pin point a belief that doesn’t serve you is to take stock of the grander picture of your life. What areas of your life do you want to change but just can’t seem to for a significant amount of time? It could be a battle with weight or addiction- an exhausting struggle with perfectionism or disorganization! Perhaps you keep falling for the same type of person who doesn’t treat you like you deserve or maybe you keep running into similar problems with friends or family. Have you ever asked yourself why you keep encountering these struggles over and over? Pay close attention to the answers you come up with- they point directly to your beliefs.
We all have areas in our life that could use a tune up- and some areas that we’ve always been successful in! The common denominator is always your beliefs. Beliefs that don’t serve you serve to create behaviors that sabotage your growth and improvement
Of course, you don’t sabotage your life on purpose- at least, not consciously. But you are functioning on a subconscious foundation made of belief and emotions, built and fortified throughout the course of your life.
It’s strong but you know what’s more powerful? YOU! You can break apart the beliefs that don’t serve you and effortlessly embrace ones that drive you towards success in every aspect of life.
Freedom is an inside job
This is the great secret of life. You don’t have to be a prisoner of your past, your impulses or your routine. True freedom means breaking out of theses self-imposed barriers. It means you stop following and start leading your own life.
But you don’t transform your beliefs by pushing away negative thoughts or pretending they don’t exist.
While vacations, relaxation and meditation offer a chance to re-connect, you can only stay plugged in when you let go of the source of your stress.
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Are you a naturally positive person? OR do you practice positivity as a way of conquering naturally bad feelings and thoughts? There is a big difference.
Of course positivity is much better for us than negativity is. Studies clearly link positivity to better health and more happiness.
Motivational gurus “promise” you that positive thinking allows you to see the greatness in your life instead of the pitfalls and remind you of how much you have accomplished. Practices such as meditation, writing, art, and adventure motivate positive thinking and action.
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During the 1890s Russian physiologist, Ivan Pavlov, discovered the process that is now called “Pavlovian Conditioning.”
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The core of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) is based on this Pavlovian conditioning. NLP connects your positive experiences to your fears and/or negative experiences. This conditioning creates positive thoughts and feelings about something you did not feel good about originally.
But there’s a major problem with this conditioned positivity that has become more and more obvious: It’s temporary!
It has to be practiced every day.
Like exercise, it requires dedication, discipline, and constant repetition.
Without that practice, the impacts of positivity chip away like a temporary tattoo!
So why is the practice of positivity so much work?
The Real Power
It’s because conditioned positivity is not nearly as strong and powerful as the pain that resides within us and that impacts our relationships, health, success, and overall happiness.
Conditioned positivity can ‘re-program’ and overrule negative thoughts so long as these thoughts originate from what are called “cluster” experiences. A cluster experience is a subconsciously stored memory that is coded correctly and therefore approachable by your conscious brain.
Unfortunately, positive conditioning does not work at all if our fears or negative thoughts are controlled by so-called “bad clusters”.
Bad clusters are wrongly coded negative experiences in our subconscious that we cannot remember. Bad clusters control a huge part of our thinking, feelings, beliefs, decisions and behaviors.
Despite the real rewards of positivity, the emptiness, pain, and negativity you’re trying to conquer still exist in all their heaviness and powerfully pull back on the strides made by the practice of positivity.
This is why so many people fall back into old habits, in spite of all the conditioning, affirmations and positive thinking the practiced. Whatever you try, somewhere down the line, old disturbing habits and negative behavior start to take over again.
The frustrating part is that the picture you had about what you wanted to achieve was perfectly clear. You know in your gut that you are capable of reaching your goal. WHAT then is it that keeps inhibiting and sabotaging you?
This has nothing to do with your intelligence, drive or will to get the best results, but everything to with the subconscious bad cluster influences that activate during your efforts.
Do you relate to this? Are there times you ignore a sad, angry, or uncomfortable feeling with the intent of being more positive? It’s a constant battle that actually drains you of energy- emotionally and physically.
The Real Difference
Our life will provide an array of challenges that test our resolve to maintain positivity and while we can CHOOSE a more positive way of addressing every day obstacles how is it really impacting us from is within?
Does it really make a difference? Do these acts of positivity really make us happier, healthier people in the long run?
They can- if the barriers are out of the way.
The truth is, that unless we address the real source of our negativity, we can never really fully benefit from the beautiful benefits of positivity
That doesn’t mean you’ll always be in a “hurray!” mood with a big smile from ear to ear. There will always be fluctuations in emotions; that’s called LIFE. But to enjoy life to its fullest, your emotions have to be in balance and not appear in huge highs and extreme lows.
The Real Change
With powerful negative energy out of our way, positivity will happen more naturally, without effort, and with ease.
Life doesn’t have to be a constant battle. There is an easy and natural way of dissolving negativity permanently.
Progressive Mental Alignment offers the tools to identify the source of negative energy stored in the brain where all the data from every single experience you’ve ever had, is processed and coded with emotion.
Reaching the data that is coded with negative energy, automatically frees the data from its negative prison, re-processing it normally, and removing the impact on your everyday life.
You’ll instantly be filled with more happiness, freedom, calm and positivity that is natural and effortless.
Positivity techniques like Pavlovian conditioning, work- but only temporarily. To heal, to really transform negativity into endless positivity, Progressive Mental Alignment is the ultimate solution.
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What does physical health means to you?
I like staying active, exercising and exploring the outdoors. But I also like going out with my loved ones and/or laying on the couch and watching a movie or one of my favorite shows. Add some snacks and I’m a happy camper 😉
Do you ever notice how many drug commercials you see on TV? For every “problem” there is a pill nowadays. Even if you feel good, they insist you take certain pills after you reach a certain age, just as a precaution because maybe you could get a serious illness!
And maybe it’s the Dutch girl in me that gets even more stunned when they start warning you about all of these nasty side-effects; some of which seem even worse than the original problem for which you’re taking the medication!
On top of that, at the exact time that the moderator is describing all these horrors, they’re filling the screen with a series of smiling faces and happy people just blissfully enjoying their life. How confusing is that?
And don’t get me wrong; I’m not saying you shouldn’t take medication. Medication can be helpful and even necessary. But I am saying you can also take medication to an obsessive level. But of course there are medicines for obsessiveness too 🙂
For many of us, the pursuit of health is a heavy weight on our shoulders.
It can add-up; especially if you are a worrier who commits yourself to all sorts of tasks for yourself and others.
Exercise is work. Eating right is work. And most people do a lot of things that negatively impacts their bodies and minds. We all WANT to be healthy but we also want to enjoy life’s greatest and sweetest pleasures without this overbearing distraction!
That’s why so many of us lose ourselves in the business of quick fixes and cures.
How many organizations exist to raise money for the ultimate cure? How many drug commercials promise more happiness and peace with their product? How many new age remedies offer meditation, positivity, yoga, and mindfulness as the answer to managing the stress that impacts our physical health?
The options are limitless! But the most important questions is why.
Shift The Focus
Why haven’t we found a cure for some the world’s most devastating diseases? Why don’t drugs provide permanent results? Why do natural remedies have to be practiced over and over?
It’s because the CAUSE is not the focus, when it should be.
How much time have we really spent focused on the cause of our struggling physical health?
I’m here to inform you that the cure is NOT as important as the cause. In fact the cure lives in the cause!
The problem with the cure is that it can address the revealed symptoms but it does NOT address the driving force behind those symptoms.
Have you ever pondered a negative situation? Although pondering apparently takes place “just” in your head, how did those thoughts make you feel in your whole body? What did you feel and where in your body did you feel the effect of the pondering process? Did these feelings give you energy or did they drain you?
Pondering only persists if it is rooted in so called bad clusters. As long as the bad cluster is not rendered harmless, the attacks on your physical health will continue. Although this is all controlled “just” in your head, your total body will pay the price for it. All exercise, healthy eating and additional health techniques can lose their effect as long as the subconscious programs of activated bad clusters control your physiology.
See The Source
Until the root cause of your symptoms is addressed, it will manifest itself in different ways and with different symptoms over and over again.
This will leave you in circles, jumping from quick fix to quick fix in an attempt to feel better.
Think about it. You can clean up a water spill from a leak but unless you address and repair the source of the leak, you can expect a lot more mopping in your future!!! J
Pinpointing the exact cause of our health issues simplifies the process. It allows you to zone in on the root source of the problem and heal in a localized, effective, and permanent way.
We know that in at least 75% of cases, the root source of all health problems is located in our subconscious brain. That’s where deeply stored data emanates powerful energy when triggered by your environment.
The most negative of that energy weighs us down physically and causes a variety of symptoms that is felt in all areas of our body.
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Now there’s a way of reaching and re-processing deeply buried brain data causing the most havoc on our bodies. Specifically targeting and re-processing these problem spots means they will never cause an issue again, offering people a huge increase in physical health and healing from a number of physical issues.
The results have been amazing to watch and mean much more health and happiness for anyone looking for solutions to physical pain and discomfort.
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Even the best-lived life can be exhausting! Responsibilities at home and work, activity filled weekends, an ever-growing list of to-dos and unavoidable stress can make bedtime feel like a well-deserved vacation at the end of a long day! You deserve to relax! But if you take a look at your own life, how much natural energy do you really have? Are you constantly tired and battling to get through the day? Do you rely on coffee, tea, or other supplements to stay energized? While exhaustion is normal and an important sign of much needed rest and relaxation, more serious fatigue has a deeper more powerful source. It’s a problem that can’t be fixed with temporary boosters or even with sleep, exercise, or a change in diet. It requires a strong look within.
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Inside of your subconscious there is a great struggle taking place that is robbing you of precious energy. This battle is led by the most powerful force in the human body- the “away from pain” drive. This drive is a physiological system known as the Friend Mechanism.While it helps you survive, it also drains you of great amounts of energy as it works to keep you away from deeply stored pockets of pain in your subconscious known as bad clusters. Bad clusters are filled with powerfully negative emotions from past experiences that we usually don’t remember. The most powerful of those emotions is fear. The brain fights to keep us away from fear at all costs. This deep internal battle is the NUMBER 1 reason for our lack of energy. Because the friend mechanism works on genetic impulse to help you steer clear of physical danger, it doesn’t recognize that facing your own internal fear is actually good for you! That’s why it is up to YOU to rise above your friend mechanism, open the gates to your fear, and let it go forever!
Don’t Ignore. Embrace!
We’ve been trained to ignore our pain and push it aside but not only is that hard, it’s impossible simply because you carry it with you wherever you go, stored inside your subconscious. On top of that, the pain is as real today as it was in the past. You feel it powerfully in the present. You don’t heal by pretending it’s not there, you heal by facing it. It starts by addressing the root source of this pain. By moving towards it in the right way, the bad cluster that unrightfully keeps fear active is revealed. As soon as you become aware of its content, your subconscious will re-process the data correctly. This results in eliminating its negative draining power forever. There is no danger in doing this. What IS dangerous is leaving these health damaging, bad clusters undiscovered in your subconscious. Bad clusters are not just the root cause of your fatigue, they are also the reason for at least 75% of all diseases and behavioral problems! Face it, once and for all. Reveal why it hurts and how it controls your thinking, beliefs, actions, behaviors and health. Break apart the biology of these subconscious sabotaging forces, piece by piece.
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Reaching these subconscious jamming-stations is super easy using the PMA method. Using a system of advanced self-questioning, you’ll be able to connect the dots that lead directly to the bad cluster. Once you reach it, your subconscious automatically re-processes the data and releases the pain- permanently. You will feel an immediate surge in natural energy.
The energy it takes to fight negative emotions from your past is draining you! You don’t have to battle it anymore. PMA reveals the root-source of your negative emotion to specific events in your past which you don’t remember. Remembering these past events, releases them from their prison, re-processes the information, and disconnects its negative influences from the present.
True growth happens when you become completely aware of the bad clusters of your past and embrace the amazing self-healing power of your subconscious, once you understand how to approach it.
In return, your subconscious transforms draining events from your past into healthy inspiring energy to live your life to the fullest.
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If you could change one thing- right now- about your physical health, what would it be? Maybe it’s joint or back pain that won’t go away no matter what you do or weight that has been challenging to lose. Perhaps you get sick more often than you’d like or suffer from serious allergies. It could be that you’ve lived with a long-term condition like asthma or severe migraines, fibromyalgia, epilepsy, or perhaps are struggling with a disease that significantly disrupts your daily life.
It’s all in your head
What if I told you that whatever you struggle with physically starts in your head?
No, you’re not crazy. What you’re feeling is real! But the reason behind your health issues may not be what you think it is. Science tells us that at least 75 percent of the time, your health problems are a direct result of what’s going on in your subconscious. In other words, the content of your subconscious determines how healthy or sick you are in most cases. But why?
It begins with understanding stress.
We know that stress can cause serious health problems such as diabetes, fat storage, skin problems, back pain, strokes, premature aging, asthma, seizures, and much more.
That’s because of how stress works. Stress is the physiological activation of the fight or flight response in our bodies. This genetic survival mechanism prompts the release of hormones, a rise in blood pressure and a spike in blood sugars.
When this fight or flight response becomes over activated, our bodies pay the price. An over active fight or flight response (panic with loss of control) forces something else to happen in our brain; something that is even MORE impactful and disastrous. The brain goes into overload in those moments causing incoming sensory data (The things we perceive through our senses at every moment) to be processed incorrectly. The result, in such an extreme panic moment, is a neurophysiological ‘short-circuiting’ of all the details around you like colors, shapes, smells, sounds, and sensations. ANYTHING will be processed incorrectly.
These pieces of wrongly coded data, known as bad clusters, remain STUCK in your subconscious. They stay dormant until specific triggers in your environment activate similar ingredients that are also stored in the bad cluster. From that moment on, they drain you of important energy AND because they’re connected to the stress of the fight or flight moment, they release strong feelings of stress and anxiety.
If a bad cluster remains active, and this is almost always the case, its negative physiological power will damage you physically and create serious health problems.
So what’s the solution?
In this fast paced world we crave quick fixes that bandage our pain and allow us to continue with life as usual. The problem with quick fixes is that they only help temporarily because they only suppress the symptoms and not cure the cause.
But what if there was a quick fix that actually offered permanent results? Now there is.
I’m talking about a one-time method that uses NO medication, drugs, needles, or even much time.
The only requirement is a willingness to face the hidden areas in your subconscious that cause you stress. The bad cluster experiences that are stored in our subconscious (we don’t consciously remember them) are scientifically proven to be the MAIN reason for the stress and anxiety that cause health problems.
When you remember these events something amazing happens – you break apart all the details of the bad cluster content in a way that re-processes the data in a correct and healthy manner. Its connection to negative feelings ends permanently. All of this happens in just a fraction of a second. The memory and all of the little details that were stuck are now moved along naturally – leaving you with an instant feeling of clarity, peace, and joy.
Connections that were impossible to make before in your brain, happen instantly, creating a subconscious drive for more health and personal growth.
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