As the sights and sounds of the season surround us so do familiar feelings and memories. It makes me wonder, what’s the very first picture that pops up for you when it comes to the holidays from childhood?
You’d be surprised by how much meaning even the smallest things can hold! From a particular movie, ornament or wrapping paper to a favorite dish or familiar activity- ANYTHING can get you jogging down memory lane. So it’s no surprise that this time of year is packed with plenty of details that stimulate the senses.
For too many people, that means the activation of not-so-nice feelings that overwhelm them year after year. Known as the holiday blues, this powerful emotional battle is incredibly common and highly misunderstood.
There’s 1 reason the holiday blues are so common
Movies, commercials, billboards, news stories, magazines, music, social media and even email serve to paint fairytale pictures of perfect family reunions, treasured traditions and overall excitement and joy. While many of us do feel connected to these sorts of images and even uplifted by them, plenty of others struggle with sustaining positivity during the holiday months.
For many people, the holidays mark the start of a powerful emotional battle that plagues them the entire season, year after year. Sometimes the pain of losing a loved one hurts even deeper than usual during the holidays and replaces what was once a happy time. For others, the season is filled with triggers of a painful childhood in which they didn’t enjoy the holidays or were completely deprived of them. For other people the thought of bringing dysfunctional families together triggers an onslaught of emotions associated with those relationships and in some situations it’s a matter of loneliness, financial struggle or various holiday pressures. There are even people who have NO idea why they feel so down during the holidays!
No matter the reason, the real cause of the most powerful negative feelings always has a deeper source, rooted in the painful pieces of the person’s past. Unless the emotions from these past experiences are resolved permanently, they’ll continue to impact your emotional health.
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Here’s the difference between normal and harmful sadness
Can you think of a past event that was significantly sad? Whether it was a funeral, a break up, an emotional goodbye, the loss of a job or something else, we have all experienced sad and even dark times. When you think about that moment, what do you feel and where in your body do you feel it? If you still feel those emotions TODAY as powerfully as you did back then, that means there is a much more powerful source for your emotions. It’s a source that was not processed in a correct way. It’s all rooted in your past.
Why memories are always measured in emotion
I can personally relate to the mixed emotions some feel this time of year. My memories contain a mix of some fun moments and not so happy ones. I do have warm feelings associated with getting the ornament boxes from the attic, feeling like we were hunting for treasure and decorating the Christmas tree with my sisters and mom! I remember green, red, yellow and white lights and a golden angel that sat on the table and made a tingling sound when the candlelight’s around the angel, were on. There was a holiday themed tablecloth and pieces of chocolate cookies, and sprinkles on the tree. All of these small but bright images create happy feelings but as a child, they were short lived and squeezed in between the not-so-fun tension and unspoken words that drove the heavy and uncomfortable energy in the house, along with the pressure to keep up appearances as the ‘happy functional’ family we were not!
Can you relate to some of these memories? I’ve spoken to many people who do relate! Unfortunately for them the painful moments overpowered happy ones and still ‘call the shots’ as far as the holidays are concerned. The more pain a memory contains, the more it impacts your life!
One client in particular, Jackie, sought help after being unable to overcome the holiday blues, no matter what she did. Leaving her childhood home, moving to a different state and even starting her own traditions with her own family did nothing to alleviate the negative emotions that crept up at the end of every fall.
When her feelings and mood started to impact her family’s holiday experience, she knew it was time for a permanent solution- and that meant addressing the real cause of her negative emotions: Her past.
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Why healing means putting the past in its place
It turns out that when details from her past re-appeared in her present environment (and they did every holiday!) they would trigger the strongest negative emotions associated with her childhood.
These details could be anything! From the shadow of the Christmas tree against the night’s light, to the colors of a particular ornament or gift, to the face shape of a family member.
In our session, Jackie was able to put the past back in its place so it wouldn’t affect her any longer.
The best part about it for Jackie is that she didn’t need to remove the Christmas tree, or throw away a particular decoration to avoid her emotions. Now these various holiday regulars don’t impact her the same way and in fact, she is able to enjoy them.
This is why it’s so important in cases of depressive symptoms, to focus on the root source of the issue. Until you address the source behind your feelings, you can only encounter ‘temporary’ relief.
In Jackie’s case, the associated ‘bad’ feelings melted away instantly and for the first time, she truly began to enjoy the season.
This is what permanent change feels like
Does Jackie’s story sound like something you recognize in your own life? If so, you’re not alone. There are many people who struggle to join the ‘joy’ associated with the season- even if they don’t show it!
But not everyone is forcing themselves to enjoy the holidays. In fact, many people truly enjoy this time and are noticeably altered by it. What really strikes me is the extended human spirit this time of year. It feels as if people are generally more accepting and forgiving of each other. There is a collective green light for kindness that prompts people to kick up the connection with others and become more focused on peace. It’s why there is no more perfect time for true healing! Wouldn’t it be nice to start enjoying the holidays and experience peace all year round?
The truth is that it doesn’t matter whether your unresolved negative emotions are rooted in a holiday event or not. The impact of using Progressive Mental Alignment is felt in area of your life and in every single season of the year. It’s an awesome feeling not to be weighed down by the past and really the best gift you could ever give yourself!
Think about the prospect of an actual solution. When you decide to go for it, you’ll open up to the greatest possibilities life has to offer.
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A new campaign launched by the Skin care company Sanctuary, is urging young women to just ‘let it go’ in response to rising stress. The campaign includes a video of women in their later years, offering advice to their younger selves. It urges young women to let go of perfectionism, pressure, and self-hatred and to embrace relaxation, presence and enjoyment. In essence, it’s a movement for happiness.
It’s an important message for almost 50 percent of women who say they feel ‘moderately or extremely stressed’ and another 40 percent who feel like they’re about to burn out.
Chances are, you can relate to the pressure of keeping up with life. But what are we keeping up with exactly?
You know it’s a problem. We ALL know it.
We can talk all day about the factors that trigger stress including the accessibility of more choice, 24-hour technological resources, more demanding jobs, self-consciousness, pressures that greet us at every turn and mobile phones which we seem to never turn off.
We know that we should focus more time on just ‘being’ and less time on doing because that is the space that allows us to breath in what really matters and to get more enjoyment out of life. If you’ve ever taken a break from it all, you know how beneficial it is.
But how many of these ‘awakenings’ have you had? How many times have you committed to being more present, smelling the roses and prioritizing your wellbeing? And the even bigger question is- why don’t the effects of these time outs ever seem to last very long?
I mean, it’s not like we really want to return to the chaos but we always do, even though we know logically that it’s not good for us. It’s like that bad habit you can’t seem to break no matter what you do. It’s a process most of us are not even aware of and often feels like an “urge” to return to those old and powerful behaviors that are so familiar. Vacations and ‘me time’ are fantastic but there is no point, if you continue returning to life ‘as usual’.
It’s time to stop talking about temporary escapes from your stressful reality and time to start transforming your daily life so that you don’t need to run away from it anymore.
Stand up to your stress!
Is there a more permanent solution for maintaining balance and presence in your daily life? YES. But the solution requires understanding the most powerful drivers of your behavior.
Your daily behavior is the direct result of your most powerful beliefs about yourself and about the world. Evaluate your own beliefs for a moment.
What comes to mind when you think about what it means to be a woman? A mother? A wife or girlfriend. What do you think about friendship, accomplishment or love? These thoughts are born out of your most powerful beliefs. Think about how your actions and motives reflect these beliefs. Then, you can begin to determine if these beliefs are helping you or hurting you. Are these beliefs creating behaviors that benefit you or sabotage you?
Think for a moment about a recent situation in your everyday life. It could have been today, yesterday or last week. It could have happen at home, work or school. It was a moment in which you proceeded with a behavior that you knew wasn’t good for you- but you did it anyway. What happened in your mind right before you did it? What was the belief that popped up and convinced you to do it despite your better intentions? It could be the tiniest thought that points to a greater belief and deeper source of your behavior.
Another good way to pin point a belief that doesn’t serve you is to take stock of the grander picture of your life. What areas of your life do you want to change but just can’t seem to for a significant amount of time? It could be a battle with weight or addiction- an exhausting struggle with perfectionism or disorganization! Perhaps you keep falling for the same type of person who doesn’t treat you like you deserve or maybe you keep running into similar problems with friends or family. Have you ever asked yourself why you keep encountering these struggles over and over? Pay close attention to the answers you come up with- they point directly to your beliefs.
We all have areas in our life that could use a tune up- and some areas that we’ve always been successful in! The common denominator is always your beliefs. Beliefs that don’t serve you serve to create behaviors that sabotage your growth and improvement
Of course, you don’t sabotage your life on purpose- at least, not consciously. But you are functioning on a subconscious foundation made of belief and emotions, built and fortified throughout the course of your life.
It’s strong but you know what’s more powerful? YOU! You can break apart the beliefs that don’t serve you and effortlessly embrace ones that drive you towards success in every aspect of life.
Freedom is an inside job
This is the great secret of life. You don’t have to be a prisoner of your past, your impulses or your routine. True freedom means breaking out of theses self-imposed barriers. It means you stop following and start leading your own life.
But you don’t transform your beliefs by pushing away negative thoughts or pretending they don’t exist.
While vacations, relaxation and meditation offer a chance to re-connect, you can only stay plugged in when you let go of the source of your stress.
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Are you a naturally positive person? OR do you practice positivity as a way of conquering naturally bad feelings and thoughts? There is a big difference.
Of course positivity is much better for us than negativity is. Studies clearly link positivity to better health and more happiness.
Motivational gurus “promise” you that positive thinking allows you to see the greatness in your life instead of the pitfalls and remind you of how much you have accomplished. Practices such as meditation, writing, art, and adventure motivate positive thinking and action.
A Real Start
During the 1890s Russian physiologist, Ivan Pavlov, discovered the process that is now called “Pavlovian Conditioning.”
This video explains how it works in about 3 minutes:
The core of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) is based on this Pavlovian conditioning. NLP connects your positive experiences to your fears and/or negative experiences. This conditioning creates positive thoughts and feelings about something you did not feel good about originally.
But there’s a major problem with this conditioned positivity that has become more and more obvious: It’s temporary!
It has to be practiced every day.
Like exercise, it requires dedication, discipline, and constant repetition.
Without that practice, the impacts of positivity chip away like a temporary tattoo!
So why is the practice of positivity so much work?
The Real Power
It’s because conditioned positivity is not nearly as strong and powerful as the pain that resides within us and that impacts our relationships, health, success, and overall happiness.
Conditioned positivity can ‘re-program’ and overrule negative thoughts so long as these thoughts originate from what are called “cluster” experiences. A cluster experience is a subconsciously stored memory that is coded correctly and therefore approachable by your conscious brain.
Unfortunately, positive conditioning does not work at all if our fears or negative thoughts are controlled by so-called “bad clusters”.
Bad clusters are wrongly coded negative experiences in our subconscious that we cannot remember. Bad clusters control a huge part of our thinking, feelings, beliefs, decisions and behaviors.
Despite the real rewards of positivity, the emptiness, pain, and negativity you’re trying to conquer still exist in all their heaviness and powerfully pull back on the strides made by the practice of positivity.
This is why so many people fall back into old habits, in spite of all the conditioning, affirmations and positive thinking the practiced. Whatever you try, somewhere down the line, old disturbing habits and negative behavior start to take over again.
The frustrating part is that the picture you had about what you wanted to achieve was perfectly clear. You know in your gut that you are capable of reaching your goal. WHAT then is it that keeps inhibiting and sabotaging you?
This has nothing to do with your intelligence, drive or will to get the best results, but everything to with the subconscious bad cluster influences that activate during your efforts.
Do you relate to this? Are there times you ignore a sad, angry, or uncomfortable feeling with the intent of being more positive? It’s a constant battle that actually drains you of energy- emotionally and physically.
The Real Difference
Our life will provide an array of challenges that test our resolve to maintain positivity and while we can CHOOSE a more positive way of addressing every day obstacles how is it really impacting us from is within?
Does it really make a difference? Do these acts of positivity really make us happier, healthier people in the long run?
They can- if the barriers are out of the way.
The truth is, that unless we address the real source of our negativity, we can never really fully benefit from the beautiful benefits of positivity
That doesn’t mean you’ll always be in a “hurray!” mood with a big smile from ear to ear. There will always be fluctuations in emotions; that’s called LIFE. But to enjoy life to its fullest, your emotions have to be in balance and not appear in huge highs and extreme lows.
The Real Change
With powerful negative energy out of our way, positivity will happen more naturally, without effort, and with ease.
Life doesn’t have to be a constant battle. There is an easy and natural way of dissolving negativity permanently.
Progressive Mental Alignment offers the tools to identify the source of negative energy stored in the brain where all the data from every single experience you’ve ever had, is processed and coded with emotion.
Reaching the data that is coded with negative energy, automatically frees the data from its negative prison, re-processing it normally, and removing the impact on your everyday life.
You’ll instantly be filled with more happiness, freedom, calm and positivity that is natural and effortless.
Positivity techniques like Pavlovian conditioning, work- but only temporarily. To heal, to really transform negativity into endless positivity, Progressive Mental Alignment is the ultimate solution.
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How are you feeling today?
I mean, how are you really feeling?
Many of us are quick to answer ‘Great!’ when the reality is not so positive.
Do you ever notice that even if someone feels particularly sad, they often say that they’re ok?
Sadness is an integral part of the human story because, unfortunately, we all experience real sad and painful events at some point in our life. Sadness reminds us that life is an unending journey of highs, lows, and the peace in between. It also reminds us to appreciate the good times.
It’s a powerful emotion that can stop you in your tracks! Sadness can be related to something very specific that, once resolved, will allow you to move on emotionally (like not getting that job you really, really wanted!) but there are other forms of sadness that are much deeper, impactful, and long lasting, like the pain of loosing someone you dearly love.
Then- there is that type of deeply felt sadness that keeps hitting you and can make you feel sick or even guilty.
Have you ever experienced this type of sadness? It seemingly pops up randomly out of nowhere. It’s a wave of melancholy that can hit you at work, home, or anywhere. It can even show up at an otherwise happy occasion. You don’t know where it comes from and because this uncertainty causes an additional negative feeling, you create all kinds of belief systems to explain the sadness. You start to wonder if it’s the weather, or if maybe you’re starting to feel sick, tired, or something else. Can you relate to this type of seemingly random sadness? Have you ever stopped to wonder in those cases, what is really causing it?
In other cases you do know what is causing it. It’s common for some deep sadness to be attached to something that you’ve experienced. You connect that sadness to a specific circumstance immediately. Even just a quick thought about the situation, gets you down.
Can you think of something that evokes deep sadness today? Maybe it’s an impactful childhood event, the loss of someone special, or the thought of a situation or relationship that isn’t quite what you wanted it to be. It could even be something you deeply regret- that still pains you today even though you can’t do anything to change it. It could have happened a long time ago or something that occurred recently.
Whether it’s a random wave of sadness, or a thought of something that always makes your heart ache, its source is deeper than you may even know.
Anguish about a sad event can be a normal process but if it keeps plaguing us in such a way that we can’t function properly or even makes us sick, then something else is definitely going on that needs your attention.
The key to finding out the true cause of the sadness lies in confronting the emotion and allowing it to lead you to its core.
There Is Only One Source
The core is always a bad cluster stored inside your subconscious.
One of my client’s Sarah discovered this in a big way and wanted me to share her story in hopes it will help someone else.
Sarah asked me for help because she was unable to function at work and suffered from a big loss of energy, sadness, and frequent crying fits. During our session she suddenly realized that it all started when her friend told her she broke up with her boyfriend, named Daniel.
As I helped her become aware of the exact moment and details of her friend’s story, she spontaneously brought up the moment her own boyfriend, Danny, broke up with her 6 years ago. The break up was very sudden and unexpected. Completely out of the blue.
She felt intense sadness the moment he ended the relationship. In the days that followed it was hard to sleep and difficult to imagine starting a new relationship. Even worse, she blamed herself and thought that maybe she wasn’t good enough for a long term relationship.
During the session I asked her to go back to that particular moment when Danny broke-up with her and relive that moment in her head.
She went back to the exact moment Danny said he did not want to continue with the relationship. She felt as if she was frozen and her heart started pounding. Her muscles tensed up and then she could literally feel the energy leave her body. She was in complete disbelief. Tears welled up in her eyes. She remembers looking at his brown hair and the white shirt he had on. They were sitting on a gray couch. She had been hunched over holding him as he said the words.
In the breakup situation with Danny she went from the most painful moment to the most painful detail in that moment. During the session she experienced the same feelings she experienced during the break up. Those feelings and focusing on the most painful detail led her into a time in which she was 7 years old. She was with a dog named Daisy.
Daisy was a longtime companion of Sarah’s. She was just 4 years old when she got Daisy as a puppy. They quickly became best pals and were always together. Daisy would sleep in the room with Sarah. At one point Sarah even remembered looking at Daisy’s cute little brown nose as she slept on a chair nearby. She could feel in that moment, the love that she felt for Daisy.
When she was 7 she went to play with Daisy outside. She was playing with a white ball. They went to a normally safe location where cars usually didn’t pass. But suddenly as Daisy ran on to the road, a car, out of the blue, drove past, striking and severely injuring Daisy.
Sarah heard Daisy’s whining and saw her lying on the road. Sarah is standing there as if she is frozen. She can’t seem to move, her heart is pounding like crazy, her muscles tense up and she feels the energy literally leaving her body. They rushed Daisy to the vet.
Sarah remembers being hunched over, holding Daisy as the dog lay on a stainless steel bed whimpering and huddled. Sarah is petting her and hoping all will be ok and that they can play together again as they always have. But than the worst thing happened to little Sarah. The veterinarian came to her and told her that because of the amount of injuries, there was nothing they could do for Daisy. The doctor told her that Daisy had to be put down. Sarah’s world collapsed. She started to feel that this was her fault. She was crying intensely, almost as if her lungs were going to come out of her while she was holding her best friend and buddy Daisy in her arms.
Even though she had a conscious recollection of this event, she didn’t remember the most traumatic part- which, for her, happened to be putting Daisy to sleep. That is the moment the bad cluster formed, processing all information from the moment, incorrectly. The negative physiology she experienced now connected with all of the details from that moment.
Discover The Ingredients
The bad cluster is filled with ingredients from all of the things Sarah processed that day. Anything that triggers the bad cluster will evoke similar feelings from that day in Sarah. The breakup situation with Danny contained so much similarity with Daisy’s death that the bad cluster became active BIG TIME. Here are some of them:
|· Danny’s White Shirt
· Danny’s brown hair
· Gray Couch
· Sarah hunched over holding Danny
· Phonetic sounds of Danny’s name
· The break up came ‘out of the blue’
· She Froze
· Heart Pounding
· Muscles Tense Up
· Feels Energy Leaving Her Body
· Tears welled up
· Felt like it was her fault
|· Daisy’s White Ball
· Daisy’s brown nose in her memory
· Stainless Steel Table at Vet
· Hunched over holding Betty
· Similar to sound of Daisy’s
· The car hit Daisy out of the blue
· Felt frozen when car hit
· Heart Pounding
· Muscle Tense Up
· Felt the energy leaving her body
· Felt as if it was her fault
Even after the break up, the bad cluster remained active by “simple” things such as a picture of Daisy next to Sarah’s bed, someone asking her about Danny, or friends describing their own relationships or breakups. All of these things cause deep sadness in Sarah.
There was an overload of factors in the break up that ACTIVATED the bad cluster. That activation evoked powerful emotions in Sarah during the break up. Similar to the emotions she felt as a 7 year old with Daisy. These emotions consumed her every time her bad cluster was triggered.
Now, anything related to the break up, or the relationship will trigger the activated bad cluster in Sarah, evoking deep emotion.
Release The Sadness Forever
Discovering the bad cluster in our session released the lingering sadness in Sarah that was popping up out of nowhere. Before this session she had no idea that these feelings originated in the events of the break-up with Danny and the loss of her beloved dog Daisy.
Once the bad cluster was identified and her subconscious instantly made all the proper connections, the negative physiology was permanently removed from the bad cluster and Sarah felt free. The sadness that made her feel tired all the time and made her feel sick was gone after the session. Once she made the proper connections she felt immediate relief.
Maybe you are wondering how Sarah is doing right now. I’m so happy to tell you that she is doing great!
Today she is happier then ever and in a new relationship. Though she remembers the event as a sad time, she doesn’t have the same negative emotions pop up in the present every time she thinks about it.
That’s the really beauty in the removal of bad clusters.
Not only will you discover what really causes the intense and lingering sadness but you’ll also eliminate its negative assault on your present life. Once a bad cluster is gone, it can never come up again.
So next time you feel sad, please stop and think about when the emotions started. What exactly triggered it? When negative emotions are lingering and throw you out of balance then specific sensory observations in your environment most likely activated a bad clusters from your past. This means that your feelings of sadness are always real and always have a real cause but in many cases just not the cause you thought.
This type of self-discovery is what will lead you to a more peaceful existence and many more smiles!
Don’t just feel great. Feel FREE. FOREVER 🙂
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Have you ever had a ‘Freak Out’ moment?
It’s that familiar feeling of panic and anxiety that rushes in when you realize you forgot something important at home, your pants rip during an important meeting, or you suddenly realize you don’t have the notes for the presentation you’re about to give!
We all feel anxious, nervous, and scared from time to time. But for some people it can get much more serious very quickly. A panic attack is a whole different level of anxiety that can really impact a person’s overall health.
Have you ever experienced one? Experts say it’s a feeling you’ll never forget.
According to WebMD about 40 million American adults get panic attacks every year. It strikes without any warning and it isn’t necessarily caused by a stressful situation. It can happen at any time and in any place. They can include sweating, chest pain, heart palpitations and sometimes even a feeling of choking. The symptoms can be so severe that some people often confuse it for a heart attack and may even feel like they’re going to die.
Can you relate to this feeling?
One woman I spoke with described her panic attack as “an inner rumbling you can’t control. It takes over your inner self. You can’t find ground….the opposite of peace. You lose communication with your heart, mind, anything that grounds you on earth- you lose it. You’re on the scariest roller coaster you’ve ever been in. You can’t control it. You can’t get off, you don’t know how and you can’t see the end of it.”
Current responses to panic and anxiety include counseling, medication, and practices such as yoga and meditation. Do you embrace any of these techniques to keep calm? While these solutions may offer some relief and can help manage symptoms, none are permanent.
Only by understanding and removing the source of these attacks can we be free of them…forever.
One modern scientific technique has proven to permanently remove people from the rollercoaster of panic. It’s called Progressive Mental Alignment.
Progressive Mental Alignment teaches us how the brain works and why the overwhelming and frightening feelings of panic and anxiety take over us.
It starts by breaking down where panic attacks originate from.
We know that these attacks are an extreme form of anxiety.
Anxiety is a part of the many emotions that we experience as humans that make up our physiology.
So what is physiology?
Physiology is a description of everything that changes or moves in our body including emotions, thoughts, hormones, digestion, breathing, muscle activity, etc.
The book Desirable Power describes it as the total of all physical and energy processes in our body that make it possible for us to stay alive.
So what controls our physiology?
If we can understand what controls our physiology we will understand what controls our anxiety.
It’s important to understand that the physiology that causes panic attacks is NOT coincidental and NOT genetic. Still, it is driven by a very methodical system.
Certain triggers in our environment activate previously stored information that is loaded with physiological commands. These activated commands are the root cause of a panic attack.
Spontaneous panic attacks are NOT caused by threatening situations in the present, but are caused by a combination of simple triggers like colors, sounds, smells, and more. These triggers activate wrongly stored life events from our past that we experienced as very threatening and scary.
This wrongly stored information is called a bad cluster in Progressive Mental Alignment. These bad clusters make up part of our comparison material, which is a database of all of the significant lessons and experiences in our life.
Below is a simple example of how a bad cluster can form.
Linda was in a car accident. Right before impact her body entered into a survival state genetically programmed to protect her. This particular physiological program is called Code Red in Progressive Mental Alignment. While this emergency mode helps us survive it also causes the brain to function differently then it normally does for that period of time.
Even though the brain is in a different state, it still continues to process all the pieces of incoming sensory information, constantly. The problem is that, in this altered state, it’s processed INCORRECTLY and interlinked with all of the panic, anxiety, and fear of that moment.
While in this bad cluster state, Linda’s brain took in a lot of information. The color of the car she hit, a new song that played on the radio, the sounds that the accident created, a bird chirping, or the smells of a restaurant nearby.
While Linda will never spontaneously remember being in a bad cluster state, she WILL always feel the emotions of that moment because of all the environmental factors associated with the accident that constantly trigger the bad cluster.
It’s important to note that we all have experienced bad cluster moments several times in our life. While some ARE connected to incidents such as an accident others are not so obviously stressful. Many happened during our childhood when, even the smallest thing, like a loud noise, could scare and impact us greatly.
The bad clusters that formed from these events are activated when something from our current environment triggers it. The more information from a bad cluster is triggered at one time, the greater chance Linda has of experiencing extreme anxiety.
Even though spontaneous panic attacks are always caused by activated bad clusters, we are not able to remember the content of the bad cluster in the moment. We do feel the impact of the bad cluster’s powerful negativity once it’s triggered at any moment of our lives.
The result is a connection of the sensory data absorbed during a present panic attack with the scary feelings caused by the activated bad cluster physiology. This, by the way, is often the first step to creating phobias.
The human body consists of systems that are constantly reacting and responding to signals in our surroundings. Because nobody has the exact same subconscious comparison material, we all feel and respond differently.
The book Desirable Power offers much more detail about how this process works but with this basic principle we can understand that panic attacks are being triggered by seemingly innocent details like a smell, taste, sound, facial expression, etc. within our environment that is present at the moment of the attack.
This may sound like a lot of information but the solution is actually quite simple! Progressive Mental Alignment provides us with the method to get rid of these feelings of panic permanently! All you have to do is learn how the method works and then give your subconscious brain the freedom to reveal the root-cause of the panic attacks.
If you are familiar with feelings of a panic attack, than just think for a moment about the last time you felt this random feeling of panic. Where were you? What were you surrounded by? What did you perceive seconds before the panic attack?
Identifying the triggers that activate your panic is the first step to finding the subconscious root-cause. Once the content of the bad cluster reveals itself to your conscious brain your subconscious takes care of the rest. In a split second thousands of new connections are made in your subconscious. These new connections will remove the negative physiology from the bad cluster details forever and your panic attacks will stop.
Through Progressive Mental Alignment you remove these bad clusters from your subconscious by re-processing the information so they no longer cause panic, or a lot of other health and behavioral problems.
I invite you to watch this free webinar which explains the amazing way our brain functions, how bad clusters form, and how you can use Progressive Mental Alignment in your daily life to remove the powerfully negative impact of bad clusters.
Progressive Mental Alignment is a simple process that can change your life forever. Why not eliminate that which is keeping you from the peace you seek?
It’s horrible living a life plagued by the fear and anxiety of panic attacks.
I’m here to let you know that it doesn’t need to be this way any longer.
The power is yours to stop panic attacks forever.
Start today. Permanent peace, happiness, and freedom are the reward!
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I’m pretty sure that you are now well aware that I am really passionate about the Progressive Mental Alignment method. 🙂 It completely changed my life and countless of other people. My passion to help others in the fastest and most effective way keeps me talking about Progressive Mental Alignment because it has so much more to offer than any other existing technique out there.
In this blog, I want to tell you the story of Kate. She allowed me to share her story with you because she knows that it can help many women with similar problems.
How I met Kate
A few months ago I received an e-mail of Kate; she was desperate, she wrote:
My name is Kate. I am 39 years old and for two years have been extremely depressed. I have two beautiful children (9 and 11 years), I have a fantastic husband, no financial worries, a wonderful home and great friends. To any outsider, I’ve got it all. But honestly, I feel horrible.
I remember a time when I was a very energetic woman and next to my work, did a lot for others. And now I feel exhausted all the time, it’s so frustrating for me! I can’t concentrate, sometimes I can’t eat and at other moments I eat way too much. At least twice a week I suffer from terrible headaches, which makes me irritable and I don’t sleep very well. My children and husband try to cheer me up, but I can’t enjoy it, regardless how funny or enjoyable their efforts are. I’ve become a burden to my husband and my children, which makes me feel worthless and guilty. Sometimes I wish I were dead.
I recently purchased the Progressive Mental Alignment book “Desirable Power” and after reading it I instantly felt that this is what I needed; this is what will help me. Please write me back to make an appointment.
I emailed her back the same day and I want to describe to you what happened during my Progressive Mental Alignment session with her.
The Progressive Mental Alignment session with Kate
After we started the session Kate told me that she was always a very happy and outgoing person. She had a great childhood and did not understand why she felt so horrible and had all these symptoms of depression. My first question was:
Question: When did this feeling start?
Answer: It started two years ago.
Question: What happened two years ago that was the starting point? Please don’t think about it, but what is the first memory that spontaneously pops up in your head after I asked my question.
Answer: Huh, that’s weird. The first thing I remembered was my youngest daughter; she was 7 at that time. I was reading an email my mother wrote me and suddenly I heard a loud noise in the hallway, like someone fell down followed by crying of my daughter. I ran to the hallway, and there was my daughter at the bottom of the stairway crying and screaming that her right arm hurt. It’s weird because I don’t know why I would think of this event because after visiting the hospital it turned out that nothing was broken and the bruises healed fast.
Question: Trust your subconscious it does not make mistakes. If this situation comes up first than there is a reason for that. So, please go back in your mind to that particular moment, that moment where you are reading the email from your mother. Don’t just remember that moment, but instead, relive that moment with all your senses. Be there again in your mind. If you do that, what is the very first thing that comes to mind about that moment?
Answer: The first thing that comes to mind is the loud sound of someone falling down the stairs and the screaming words “noooooo” in combination with the crying of my daughter.
Question: Is there anything else in that moment that stands out and also comes to mind?
Answer: I see the white screen of my computer and words from the letter?
Question: What words stand out the most for you?
Answer: It was about an annoying neighbor and she wrote: I have no hope that she will change.
Question: Is it the whole sentence or just one or a few words that come to mind?
Answer: It is actually just the phrase “no hope” that is dominant for me.
Question: Just stay in that moment, what happened after you heard your daughter scream? What is the first thing that comes to mind?
Answer: I jumped up from my chair and ran to the hallway. The first thing that pops-up now is the face of my daughter.
Question: What part of her face?
Answer: Her teary eyes.
Question: Is there anything else that stands out and comes to mind?
Answer: Yes, I don’t know why but the white marble floor in the hallway comes to mind and dark wood railing and the red carpet of the staircase. This is so weird! Those details are always there and I must have noticed them every single day, but now they stand out and are more dominant then ever!
Question: What is the most dominant detail of all the things that popped-up so far?
Answer: Weird enough it is the words “no hope” of the letter from my mom and the teary eyes of my daughter.
Question: Just focus on these two details and allow the feelings to come up that you felt at that moment. Where in your body do you feel something and what is it exactly that you feel?
Answer: It feels like my stomach squeezes together – My heart is pounding in my throat – my eyes are burning – my hands are trembling and I heave difficulty breathing. It is not extreme, but powerful enough to notice.
Question: Are these feelings familiar to you?
Answer: Absolutely! They are totally connected to my feelings of depression. The more intense these feelings are, the more intense is my depression.
In the book Desirable Power you read how and why the Progressive Mental Alignment technique works, and how you can apply it to deal with depression forever.
Kate revealed a number of details that stood out because they were all loaded with negative feelings. How did we know that they were loaded with negative physiology? Because her negative feelings intensified, or it activated the urge in her to go away from the situation, whenever she focused on these details. So, what I say here is that it is not your rational memories that tell you what the most important details are. It’s the feelings in Kate’s body that tell you what’s most important for her.
So far the following details showed-up:
- The words: “no hope”
- Screaming, “nooooo!”
- Jumping up from her chair
- Running (to the hallway)
- The teary eyes of her daughter
- The white marble floor
- Dark wood railing
- Red carpet of the staircase
- Stomach squeezes together
- Heart is pounding in her throat
- Eyes are burning
- Hands are trembling
- Difficulties breathing
During 40 minutes, until she reached the bad cluster, Kate brought up several other memories that all contained some of the above details. During the “reliving” of each of those memories the negative feelings in her body intensified, or as I said before, it activated the urge to go away from the situation. Let’s now jump to the content of the bad cluster. Keep in mind that you cannot just spontaneously remember the content of a bad cluster. Through the specific question technique of Progressive Mental Alignment you first collect all kinds of negatively loaded details. This will take the load off from the total bad cluster. After the load is partly gone and you ask the right questions, that is the moment when the suppressed memory pops-up spontaneously. Once you are in the suppressed memory you keep asking the right Progressive Mental Alignment questions and suddenly, the whole content of the bad cluster reveals itself.
The content of the bad cluster:
Question: The expression on your face and your sudden body movement tell me that something else came up. What is it?
Answer: Yes, that’s correct!
It is 23 years ago, I am 13, and I am at the hospital where my father died after a tragic car accident.
Question: Try to be there again and relive that moment. What do you experience?
Answer: I see my father and the white sheets of hospital bed. There is blood (red) all over his face and clothes. A doctor comes and my mother asks him: “how serious is it?” The doctor answers: I am so sorry, he is brain dead and there is no hope that he will ever wake up again. My mother jumps up from her chair and screams “nooooo!” I run towards her to hold her. I see her teary eyes and I look away to the bars of the hospital bed and to the dark wood of the closet behind the bed.
Question: What do you feel?
Answer: I’m so afraid and my stomach squeezes together – My heart is pounding in my throat – my eyes are burning – my hands are trembling and I heave difficulties breathing. It is not extreme, but powerful enough to notice. I feel the energy leave my body and feel drained at that point.
Question: (After giving Kate a little time to process the entire picture, I continue. Note: keep in mind your subconscious processes a million times faster than your conscious mind. That means the correct connections will be made in seconds) Go back to the moment you are in front of your computer and hear the screaming of your daughter after she fell of the stairs. And now go back to the moment in the hospital. Are there similarities in your feelings in both situations?
Answer: Oh, yes, they are exactly the same!
Question: Now go back and forth to the moment with your daughter and the moment in the hospital. Just be there again. What are the similarities between both situations?
Answer: (After a few seconds Kate responded:) Wow! This is amazing! So many things! The words “no hope”, the white sheets, the red of the blood, the screaming of my mother, her teary eyes, the bars of the bed and the dark wood of the closet.
Question: What do you feel at this moment?
Answer: That is even more amazing, I feel relieved, like a heavy backpack is taken of my back.
Question: What about all your symptoms of your stomach, heart, eyes, trembling and breathing when you relive both events again?
Answer: They’re totally gone, I feel great.
Question: Did this session give you answers about yourself and the cause of your depression?
Answer: I am totally flabbergasted! I realize now that simple things like colors, words, sounds, eyes, etc. from everyday observations can activate the same details of an unrelated traumatic event that is stored in my subconscious as a bad cluster. These details were still loaded with the same extreme negative physiology from that moment because they were stored wrongly and coded incompletely.
In the book Desirable Power you read how and why the Progressive Mental Alignment technique works, and how you can apply it to deal with depression forever.
And to know that I was the one who picked out the color scheme and material for our hallway J. It always gave me a sense of peace but after the activation, it turned around to a nagging feeling when I was in the hallway and didn’t even know why.
First I was afraid that I had to redo the hallway because of that feeling. And although I like to shop and decorate, it would have become very costly 😉 The amazing thing is that once your brain makes the proper connection (and that is fast when you do Progressive Mental Alignment) you don’t have to change anything because the negative load is gone and you are appreciative of your belongings even more.
Kate is just like you, a real smart cookie. She almost instantly realized that simple everyday details and sensory signals like colors, words, sounds etc. can activate similar details in a bad cluster which, in turn, activates the attached negative physiology. Needless to say – her two-year suffering from symptoms of depression ended instantly after this session.
I mentioned before that we cannot spontaneously remember the content of a bad cluster. Does that mean that Kate could not remember that her father died when she was 13? Of course she could! But all the details of that moment in the hospital she could not remember because they were so painful at that moment she lost control and stored these particular details away in a bad cluster.
Kate is one of the many amazing people who allowed me to help her. Each time when somebody opens up to me and together we go on this incredible journey, it is a true privilege for me.
People are so much stronger than they give themselves credit for. Being a part of seeing them grow after practicing Progressive Mental Alignment, in areas of life they never thought they could, is amazing and motivating.
Everyday I get these kinds of “presents,” which makes my passion about Progressive Mental Alignment even stronger.
Give yourself the present of life and reveal the ‘hidden’ energy diamonds you have in yourself too!