How to Discover the True Source of Your Sadness

How to Discover the True Source of Your Sadness

How are you feeling today?

I mean, how are you really feeling?

Many of us are quick to answer ‘Great!’ when the reality is not so positive.

Do you ever notice that even if someone feels particularly sad, they often say that they’re ok?

Sadness is an integral part of the human story because, unfortunately, we all experience real sad and painful events at some point in our life. Sadness reminds us that life is an unending journey of highs, lows, and the peace in between. It also reminds us to appreciate the good times.

It’s a powerful emotion that can stop you in your tracks! Sadness can be related to something very specific that, once resolved, will allow you to move on emotionally (like not getting that job you really, really wanted!) but there are other forms of sadness that are much deeper, impactful, and long lasting, like the pain of loosing someone you dearly love.

Then- there is that type of deeply felt sadness that keeps hitting you and can make you feel sick or even guilty.

Have you ever experienced this type of sadness? It seemingly pops up randomly out of nowhere. It’s a wave of melancholy that can hit you at work, home, or anywhere. It can even show up at an otherwise happy occasion. You don’t know where it comes from and because this uncertainty causes an additional negative feeling, you create all kinds of belief systems to explain the sadness. You start to wonder if it’s the weather, or if maybe you’re starting to feel sick, tired, or something else. Can you relate to this type of seemingly random sadness? Have you ever stopped to wonder in those cases, what is really causing it?

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In other cases you do know what is causing it. It’s common for some deep sadness to be attached to something that you’ve experienced. You connect that sadness to a specific circumstance immediately. Even just a quick thought about the situation, gets you down.

Can you think of something that evokes deep sadness today? Maybe it’s an impactful childhood event, the loss of someone special, or the thought of a situation or relationship that isn’t quite what you wanted it to be. It could even be something you deeply regret- that still pains you today even though you can’t do anything to change it. It could have happened a long time ago or something that occurred recently.

Whether it’s a random wave of sadness, or a thought of something that always makes your heart ache, its source is deeper than you may even know.

Anguish about a sad event can be a normal process but if it keeps plaguing us in such a way that we can’t function properly or even makes us sick, then something else is definitely going on that needs your attention.

The key to finding out the true cause of the sadness lies in confronting the emotion and allowing it to lead you to its core.

There Is Only One Source

The core is always a bad cluster stored inside your subconscious.

One of my client’s Sarah discovered this in a big way and wanted me to share her story in hopes it will help someone else.

Sarah asked me for help because she was unable to function at work and suffered from a big loss of energy, sadness, and frequent crying fits. During our session she suddenly realized that it all started when her friend told her she broke up with her boyfriend, named Daniel.

As I helped her become aware of the exact moment and details of her friend’s story, she spontaneously brought up the moment her own boyfriend, Danny, broke up with her 6 years ago. The break up was very sudden and unexpected. Completely out of the blue.

She felt intense sadness the moment he ended the relationship. In the days that followed it was hard to sleep and difficult to imagine starting a new relationship. Even worse, she blamed herself and thought that maybe she wasn’t good enough for a long term relationship.

During the session I asked her to go back to that particular moment when Danny broke-up with her and relive that moment in her head.

She went back to the exact moment Danny said he did not want to continue with the relationship. She felt as if she was frozen and her heart started pounding. Her muscles tensed up and then she could literally feel the energy leave her body. She was in complete disbelief. Tears welled up in her eyes. She remembers looking at his brown hair and the white shirt he had on. They were sitting on a gray couch. She had been hunched over holding him as he said the words.

In the breakup situation with Danny she went from the most painful moment to the most painful detail in that moment. During the session she experienced the same feelings she experienced during the break up. Those feelings and focusing on the most painful detail led her into a time in which she was 7 years old. She was with a dog named Daisy.

Daisy was a longtime companion of Sarah’s. She was just 4 years old when she got Daisy as a puppy. They quickly became best pals and were always together. Daisy would sleep in the room with Sarah. At one point Sarah even remembered looking at Daisy’s cute little brown nose as she slept on a chair nearby. She could feel in that moment, the love that she felt for Daisy.

When she was 7 she went to play with Daisy outside. She was playing with a white ball. They went to a normally safe location where cars usually didn’t pass. But suddenly as Daisy ran on to the road, a car, out of the blue, drove past, striking and severely injuring Daisy.

Sarah heard Daisy’s whining and saw her lying on the road. Sarah is standing there as if she is frozen. She can’t seem to move, her heart is pounding like crazy, her muscles tense up and she feels the energy literally leaving her body. They rushed Daisy to the vet.

Sarah remembers being hunched over, holding Daisy as the dog lay on a stainless steel bed whimpering and huddled. Sarah is petting her and hoping all will be ok and that they can play together again as they always have. But than the worst thing happened to little Sarah. The veterinarian came to her and told her that because of the amount of injuries, there was nothing they could do for Daisy. The doctor told her that Daisy had to be put down. Sarah’s world collapsed. She started to feel that this was her fault. She was crying intensely, almost as if her lungs were going to come out of her while she was holding her best friend and buddy Daisy in her arms.

Even though she had a conscious recollection of this event, she didn’t remember the most traumatic part- which, for her, happened to be putting Daisy to sleep. That is the moment the bad cluster formed, processing all information from the moment, incorrectly. The negative physiology she experienced now connected with all of the details from that moment.

Discover The Ingredients

The bad cluster is filled with ingredients from all of the things Sarah processed that day. Anything that triggers the bad cluster will evoke similar feelings from that day in Sarah. The breakup situation with Danny contained so much similarity with Daisy’s death that the bad cluster became active BIG TIME. Here are some of them:

·         Danny’s White Shirt

·         Danny’s brown hair

·         Gray Couch

·         Sarah hunched over holding Danny

·         Phonetic sounds of  Danny’s name           

·         The break up came ‘out of the blue’

·         She Froze 

·         Heart Pounding         

·         Muscles Tense Up

·         Feels Energy Leaving Her Body

·         Tears welled up

·         Felt like it was her fault

·         Daisy’s White Ball

·         Daisy’s brown nose in her memory

·         Stainless Steel Table at Vet

·         Hunched over holding Betty

·         Similar to sound of Daisy’s

·         The car hit Daisy out of the blue

·         Felt frozen when car hit

·         Heart Pounding

·         Muscle Tense Up

·         Felt the energy leaving her body

·         Crying

·         Felt as if it was her fault

Even after the break up, the bad cluster remained active by “simple” things such as a picture of Daisy next to Sarah’s bed, someone asking her about Danny, or friends describing their own relationships or breakups. All of these things cause deep sadness in Sarah.

There was an overload of factors in the break up that ACTIVATED the bad cluster. That activation evoked powerful emotions in Sarah during the break up. Similar to the emotions she felt as a 7 year old with Daisy. These emotions consumed her every time her bad cluster was triggered.

Now, anything related to the break up, or the relationship will trigger the activated bad cluster in Sarah, evoking deep emotion.

Release The Sadness Forever

Discovering the bad cluster in our session released the lingering sadness in Sarah that was popping up out of nowhere. Before this session she had no idea that these feelings originated in the events of the break-up with Danny and the loss of her beloved dog Daisy.

Once the bad cluster was identified and her subconscious instantly made all the proper connections, the negative physiology was permanently removed from the bad cluster and Sarah felt free. The sadness that made her feel tired all the time and made her feel sick was gone after the session. Once she made the proper connections she felt immediate relief.

Maybe you are wondering how Sarah is doing right now. I’m so happy to tell you that she is doing great!

Today she is happier then ever and in a new relationship. Though she remembers the event as a sad time, she doesn’t have the same negative emotions pop up in the present every time she thinks about it.

That’s the really beauty in the removal of bad clusters.

Not only will you discover what really causes the intense and lingering sadness but you’ll also eliminate its negative assault on your present life. Once a bad cluster is gone, it can never come up again.

So next time you feel sad, please stop and think about when the emotions started. What exactly triggered it? When negative emotions are lingering and throw you out of balance then specific sensory observations in your environment most likely activated a bad clusters from your past. This means that your feelings of sadness are always real and always have a real cause but in many cases just not the cause you thought.

This type of self-discovery is what will lead you to a more peaceful existence and many more smiles!

Don’t just feel great. Feel FREE. FOREVER 🙂

Are you curious how your brain is functioning and want to free yourself of your psychological and psychosomatic complaints? Read all you need to know in Desirable Power

Why you’re Still So Exhausted

Yawn. I’m pretty exhausted today! I just couldn’t get out bed no matter what I tried and I definitely hit the snooze button about 10 times this morning. Have you ever had one of those mornings?

You just feel like staying buried in your comfy covers all day in your pajamas far away from all the days responsibilities! This can happen every so often after a busy previous day or after a little too much fun the night before 😉

The day’s upcoming obligations can feel like a thousand pounds on your shoulders and you wonder how you’re ever going to get through the day!

Have you ever had this feeling continue for days or even weeks? This long term exhaustion is not fun at all.

No matter what you do, you’re tired! Exercise? Check! Coffee? Check! Energy booster? Protein Smoothie? Extra vitamins? Check Check Check! Despite all that you can’t seem to sleep well at night and suffer from exhaustion constantly.

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Although occasional fatigue is burdensome and can have many different causes, chronic exhaustion is definitely concerning.  An increasing amount of people suffer from chronic fatigue. Many of them lose hope and start believing they’ll always feel this way.

For a lot of women the following describes a familiar morning routine. You get the kids and yourself ready and out the door every morning before getting on the road for a congested commute to the office for a long day of work. Once you leave work you rush home to even more demands and responsibilities. By the time you’re done, you’re ready to knock out but you have trouble falling asleep or wake up in the middle of night with thoughts of all the things you still need to knock off of your to-do list.

Do you recognize this in yourself or someone else?
It’s a horrible cycle that can really impact your quality of life, career, and relationships with those you love the most!

Nothing beats a good night sleep! It makes you feel like you can run a marathon! Or at least face the day’s challenges with no problem 🙂 When you have energy the world is brighter. Wouldn’t it be amazing to feel that way more often?

You’d be surprised how much EMOTION plays into your exhaustion. I know that being tired may not feel like it’s connected to subconsciously controlled emotion but amazingly, it is!

Chronic exhaustion is a result of a deep battle taking place within your subconscious. You see, every human being is born with an amazing protection mechanism (the friend mechanism) that is genetically tasked with keeping you away from your deepest sources of pain. Some pain is stronger than others.

The strongest pain is caused by activated bad clusters. This leads to conflicting forces in your subconscious which lead to self-sabotaging belief systems. This might create, for instance, the belief that we have to do all kinds of things because of the alleged high expectations from others.

This powerful subconscious battle, while well intentioned, is robbing you of important energy and in the long run leads to exhaustion or even what they call chronic fatigue!

It may seem like something so engrained in you is hard to manage but there is a way to stop its negative impact on your mind and body.

I can show you how to release the power of the deepest wounds and conflicts in your subconscious so the battle ends! YOU end up being the winner of this fight and you’ll see how quickly energy returns to your life!

Don’t get me wrong- there is nothing wrong with a lazy day! Enjoy your bed, sleep in when you can, and refuel!

But when you’re ready to get up, start the day with the natural energy you were born with.

Accomplish all those things on your to do list AND find the time to enjoy your loved ones and the hobbies your passionate about.

Wake up to a better life and a more vibrant you!

Explore the depths of your subconscious and the powerful impact of a Progressive Mental Alignment session right from home!

How To End Panic Attacks Forever

Have you ever had a ‘Freak Out’ moment?

It’s that familiar feeling of panic and anxiety that rushes in when you realize you forgot something important at home, your pants rip during an important meeting, or you suddenly realize you don’t have the notes for the presentation you’re about to give!

We all feel anxious, nervous, and scared from time to time. But for some people it can get much more serious very quickly. A panic attack is a whole different level of anxiety that can really impact a person’s overall health.

Have you ever experienced one? Experts say it’s a feeling you’ll never forget.

According to WebMD about 40 million American adults get panic attacks every year. It strikes without any warning and it isn’t necessarily caused by a stressful situation. It can happen at any time and in any place. They can include sweating, chest pain, heart palpitations and sometimes even a feeling of choking. The symptoms can be so severe that some people often confuse it for a heart attack and may even feel like they’re going to die.

Can you relate to this feeling?

One woman I spoke with described her panic attack as “an inner rumbling you can’t control. It takes over your inner self. You can’t find ground….the opposite of peace. You lose communication with your heart, mind, anything that grounds you on earth- you lose it. You’re on the scariest roller coaster you’ve ever been in. You can’t control it. You can’t get off, you don’t know how and you can’t see the end of it.”

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Current responses to panic and anxiety include counseling, medication, and practices such as yoga and meditation. Do you embrace any of these techniques to keep calm? While these solutions may offer some relief and can help manage symptoms, none are permanent.

Only by understanding and removing the source of these attacks can we be free of them…forever.

One modern scientific technique has proven to permanently remove people from the rollercoaster of panic. It’s called Progressive Mental Alignment.

Progressive Mental Alignment teaches us how the brain works and why the overwhelming and frightening feelings of panic and anxiety take over us.

It starts by breaking down where panic attacks originate from.

We know that these attacks are an extreme form of anxiety.

Anxiety is a part of the many emotions that we experience as humans that make up our physiology.

So what is physiology?

Physiology is a description of everything that changes or moves in our body including emotions, thoughts, hormones, digestion, breathing, muscle activity, etc.

The book Desirable Power describes it as the total of all physical and energy processes in our body that make it possible for us to stay alive.

So what controls our physiology?

If we can understand what controls our physiology we will understand what controls our anxiety.

It’s important to understand that the physiology that causes panic attacks is NOT coincidental and NOT genetic. Still, it is driven by a very methodical system.

Certain triggers in our environment activate previously stored information that is loaded with physiological commands. These activated commands are the root cause of a panic attack.

Spontaneous panic attacks are NOT caused by threatening situations in the present, but are caused by a combination of simple triggers like colors, sounds, smells, and more. These triggers activate wrongly stored life events from our past that we experienced as very threatening and scary.

This wrongly stored information is called a bad cluster in Progressive Mental Alignment. These bad clusters make up part of our comparison material, which is a database of all of the significant lessons and experiences in our life.

Below is a simple example of how a bad cluster can form.

Linda was in a car accident. Right before impact her body entered into a survival state genetically programmed to protect her. This particular physiological program is called Code Red in Progressive Mental Alignment. While this emergency mode helps us survive it also causes the brain to function differently then it normally does for that period of time.

Even though the brain is in a different state, it still continues to process all the pieces of incoming sensory information, constantly. The problem is that, in this altered state, it’s processed INCORRECTLY and interlinked with all of the panic, anxiety, and fear of that moment.

While in this bad cluster state, Linda’s brain took in a lot of information. The color of the car she hit, a new song that played on the radio, the sounds that the accident created, a bird chirping, or the smells of a restaurant nearby.

While Linda will never spontaneously remember being in a bad cluster state, she WILL always feel the emotions of that moment because of all the environmental factors associated with the accident that constantly trigger the bad cluster.

It’s important to note that we all have experienced bad cluster moments several times in our life. While some ARE connected to incidents such as an accident others are not so obviously stressful. Many happened during our childhood when, even the smallest thing, like a loud noise, could scare and impact us greatly.

The bad clusters that formed from these events are activated when something from our current environment triggers it. The more information from a bad cluster is triggered at one time, the greater chance Linda has of experiencing extreme anxiety.

Even though spontaneous panic attacks are always caused by activated bad clusters, we are not able to remember the content of the bad cluster in the moment. We do feel the impact of the bad cluster’s powerful negativity once it’s triggered at any moment of our lives.

The result is a connection of the sensory data absorbed during a present panic attack with the scary feelings caused by the activated bad cluster physiology. This, by the way, is often the first step to creating phobias.

The human body consists of systems that are constantly reacting and responding to signals in our surroundings. Because nobody has the exact same subconscious comparison material, we all feel and respond differently.

The book Desirable Power offers much more detail about how this process works but with this basic principle we can understand that panic attacks are being triggered by seemingly innocent details like a smell, taste, sound, facial expression, etc. within our environment that is present at the moment of the attack.

This may sound like a lot of information but the solution is actually quite simple! Progressive Mental Alignment provides us with the method to get rid of these feelings of panic permanently! All you have to do is learn how the method works and then give your subconscious brain the freedom to reveal the root-cause of the panic attacks.

If you are familiar with feelings of a panic attack, than just think for a moment about the last time you felt this random feeling of panic. Where were you? What were you surrounded by? What did you perceive seconds before the panic attack?

Identifying the triggers that activate your panic is the first step to finding the subconscious root-cause. Once the content of the bad cluster reveals itself to your conscious brain your subconscious takes care of the rest. In a split second thousands of new connections are made in your subconscious. These new connections will remove the negative physiology from the bad cluster details forever and your panic attacks will stop.

Through Progressive Mental Alignment you remove these bad clusters from your subconscious by re-processing the information so they no longer cause panic, or a lot of other health and behavioral problems.

I invite you to watch this free webinar which explains the amazing way our brain functions, how bad clusters form, and how you can use Progressive Mental Alignment in your daily life to remove the powerfully negative impact of bad clusters.

Progressive Mental Alignment is a simple process that can change your life forever. Why not eliminate that which is keeping you from the peace you seek?

It’s horrible living a life plagued by the fear and anxiety of panic attacks.

I’m here to let you know that it doesn’t need to be this way any longer.

The power is yours to stop panic attacks forever.

Start today. Permanent peace, happiness, and freedom are the reward!

Are you curious how your brain is functioning and want to free yourself of your psychological and psychosomatic complaints? Read all you need to know in Desirable Power

How Kate overcame her Depression symptoms

I’m pretty sure that you are now well aware that I am really passionate about the Progressive Mental Alignment method. 🙂 It completely changed my life and countless of other people. My passion to help others in the fastest and most effective way keeps me talking about Progressive Mental Alignment because it has so much more to offer than any other existing technique out there.

In this blog, I want to tell you the story of Kate. She allowed me to share her story with you because she knows that it can help many women with similar problems.

How I met Kate

A few months ago I received an e-mail of Kate; she was desperate, she wrote:

Dear Ingrid,

My name is Kate. I am 39 years old and for two years have been extremely depressed. I have two beautiful children (9 and 11 years), I have a fantastic husband, no financial worries, a wonderful home and great friends. To any outsider, I’ve got it all. But honestly, I feel horrible. 


I remember a time when I was a very energetic woman and next to my work,  did a lot for others. And now I feel exhausted all the time, it’s so frustrating for me! I can’t concentrate, sometimes I can’t eat and at other moments I eat way too much. At least twice a week I suffer from terrible headaches, which makes me irritable and I don’t sleep very well. My children and husband try to cheer me up, but I can’t enjoy it, regardless how funny or enjoyable their efforts are. I’ve become a burden to my husband and my children, which makes me feel worthless and guilty.  Sometimes I wish I were dead.

I recently purchased the Progressive Mental Alignment book “Desirable Power” and after reading it I instantly felt that this is what I needed; this is what will help me. Please write me back to make an appointment.



I emailed her back the same day and I want to describe to you what happened during my Progressive Mental Alignment session with her.

The Progressive Mental Alignment session with Kate

After we started the session Kate told me that she was always a very happy and outgoing person. She had a great childhood and did not understand why she felt so horrible and had all these symptoms of depression. My first question was:

Question:       When did this feeling start?

Answer:          It started two years ago.

Question:       What happened two years ago that was the starting point? Please don’t think about it, but what is the first memory that spontaneously pops up in your head after I asked my question. 

Answer:          Huh, that’s weird. The first thing I remembered was my youngest daughter; she was 7 at that time. I was reading an email my mother wrote me and suddenly I heard a loud noise in the hallway, like someone fell down followed by crying of my daughter. I ran to the hallway, and there was my daughter at the bottom of the stairway crying and screaming that her right arm hurt. It’s weird because I don’t know why I would think of this event because after visiting the hospital it turned out that nothing was broken and the bruises healed fast.

Question:       Trust your subconscious it does not make mistakes. If this situation comes up first than there is a reason for that. So, please go back in your mind to that particular moment, that moment where you are reading the email from your mother. Don’t just remember that moment, but instead, relive that moment with all your senses. Be there again in your mind. If you do that, what is the very first thing that comes to mind about that moment?

Answer:          The first thing that comes to mind is the loud sound of someone falling down the stairs and the screaming words “noooooo” in combination with the crying of my daughter.

Question:       Is there anything else in that moment that stands out and also comes to mind?

Answer:          I see the white screen of my computer and words from the letter?

Question:       What words stand out the most for you?

Answer:          It was about an annoying neighbor and she wrote: I have no hope that she will change.

Question:       Is it the whole sentence or just one or a few words that come to mind?

Answer:          It is actually just the phrase “no hope” that is dominant for me.

Question:       Just stay in that moment, what happened after you heard your daughter scream? What is the first thing that comes to mind?

Answer:          I jumped up from my chair and ran to the hallway. The first thing that pops-up now is the face of my daughter.

Question:       What part of her face?

Answer:          Her teary eyes.

Question:       Is there anything else that stands out and comes to mind?

Answer:          Yes, I don’t know why but the white marble floor in the hallway comes to mind and dark wood railing and the red carpet of the staircase. This is so weird! Those details are always there and I must have noticed them every single day, but now they stand out and are more dominant then ever!

Question:       What is the most dominant detail of all the things that popped-up so far?

Answer:          Weird enough it is the words “no hope” of the letter from my mom and the teary eyes of my daughter.

Question:       Just focus on these two details and allow the feelings to come up that you felt at that moment. Where in your body do you feel something and what is it exactly that you feel?

Answer:          It feels like my stomach squeezes together – My heart is pounding in my throat – my eyes are burning – my hands are trembling and I heave difficulty breathing. It is not extreme, but powerful enough to notice.

Question:       Are these feelings familiar to you?

Answer:          Absolutely! They are totally connected to my feelings of depression. The more intense these feelings are, the more intense is my depression.

In the book Desirable Power you read how and why the Progressive Mental Alignment technique works, and how you can apply it to deal with depression forever.

From here Kate goes to other situations throughout her life, events that contains similar details as the recent situation where she started from.  And after going trough a few of these events she jumps to the final content of the bad cluster. The period I skipped in between the first part of the session and the moment the content of the bad cluster revealed itself is also very important, but in this blog I want to show you the connections between a moment of activation (E-mail + fall of daughter) and how that activated the content of a bad cluster. I want to show you here especially how everyday observations and details can activate the content of a bad cluster and how this activated bad cluster material finally lead to all the symptoms of depression that Kate suffered from.

Kate revealed a number of details that stood out because they were all loaded with negative feelings. How did we know that they were loaded with negative physiology? Because her negative feelings intensified, or it activated the urge in her to go away from the situation, whenever she focused on these details. So, what I say here is that it is not your rational memories that tell you what the most important details are. It’s the feelings in Kate’s body that tell you what’s most important for her.

So far the following details showed-up:

  • The words: “no hope”
  • Screaming, “nooooo!”
  • Jumping up from her chair
  • Running (to the hallway)
  • The teary eyes of her daughter
  • The white marble floor
  • Dark wood railing
  • Red carpet of the staircase
  • Stomach squeezes together
  • Heart is pounding in her throat
  • Eyes are burning
  • Hands are trembling
  • Difficulties breathing 

During 40 minutes, until she reached the bad cluster, Kate brought up several other memories that all contained some of the above details. During the “reliving” of each of those memories the negative feelings in her body intensified, or as I said before, it activated the urge to go away from the situation. Let’s now jump to the content of the bad cluster. Keep in mind that you cannot just spontaneously remember the content of a bad cluster. Through the specific question technique of Progressive Mental Alignment you first collect all kinds of negatively loaded details. This will take the load off from the total bad cluster. After the load is partly gone and you ask the right questions, that is the moment when the suppressed memory pops-up spontaneously. Once you are in the suppressed memory you keep asking the right Progressive Mental Alignment questions and suddenly, the whole content of the bad cluster reveals itself.

The content of the bad cluster:

Question:       The expression on your face and your sudden body movement tell me that something else came up. What is it?

Answer:          Yes, that’s correct!

                        It is 23 years ago, I am 13, and I am at the hospital where my father died after a tragic car accident.

Question:       Try to be there again and relive that moment. What do you experience?

Answer:          I see my father and the white sheets of hospital bed. There is blood (red) all over his face and clothes. A doctor comes and my mother asks him: “how serious is it?”  The doctor answers: I am so sorry, he is brain dead and there is no hope that he will ever wake up again. My mother jumps up from her chair and screams “nooooo!” I run towards her to hold her. I see her teary eyes and I look away to the bars of the hospital bed and to the dark wood of the closet behind the bed.

Question:       What do you feel?

Answer:          I’m so afraid and my stomach squeezes together – My heart is pounding in my throat – my eyes are burning – my hands are trembling and I heave difficulties breathing. It is not extreme, but powerful enough to notice.  I feel the energy leave my body and feel drained at that point.

Question:       (After giving Kate a little time to process the entire picture, I continue. Note: keep in mind your subconscious processes a million times faster than your conscious mind. That means the correct connections will be made in seconds) Go back to the moment you are in front of your computer and hear the screaming of your daughter after she fell of the stairs. And now go back to the moment in the hospital. Are there similarities in your feelings in both situations?

Answer:          Oh, yes, they are exactly the same!

Question:       Now go back and forth to the moment with your daughter and the moment in the hospital. Just be there again. What are the similarities between both situations?

Answer:          (After a few seconds Kate responded:) Wow! This is amazing! So many things! The words “no hope”, the white sheets, the red of the blood, the screaming of my mother, her teary eyes, the bars of the bed and the dark wood of the closet.


Question:       What do you feel at this moment?

Answer:          That is even more amazing, I feel relieved, like a heavy backpack is taken of my back.

Question:       What about all your symptoms of your stomach, heart, eyes, trembling and breathing when you relive both events again?

Answer:          They’re totally gone, I feel great.

Question:       Did this session give you answers about yourself and the cause of your depression?

Answer:          I am totally flabbergasted! I realize now that simple things like colors, words, sounds, eyes, etc. from everyday observations can activate the same details of an unrelated traumatic event that is stored in my subconscious as a bad cluster. These details were still loaded with the same extreme negative physiology from that moment because they were stored wrongly and coded incompletely.

In the book Desirable Power you read how and why the Progressive Mental Alignment technique works, and how you can apply it to deal with depression forever.

But not just that! After the event with my daughter my computer, receiving emails, the colors of the stairs and hallway became the trigger that activated daily that memory (cluster) of the painful fall of my daughter. The activation of that memory (cluster) activated the bad cluster over and over again. This way I built up a whole lot of everyday experiences that are all connected in my brain because of all the similarities. This way the negative symptoms (physiology) of the activated bad cluster stayed active all the time and led to my depression symptoms.

And to know that I was the one who picked out the color scheme and material for our hallway J. It always gave me a sense of peace but after the activation, it turned around to a nagging feeling when I was in the hallway and didn’t even know why.

First I was afraid that I had to redo the hallway because of that feeling. And although I like to shop and decorate, it would have become very costly 😉 The amazing thing is that once your brain makes the proper connection (and that is fast when you do Progressive Mental Alignment) you don’t have to change anything because the negative load is gone and you are appreciative of your belongings even more.

Kate is just like you, a real smart cookie. She almost instantly realized that simple everyday details and sensory signals like colors, words, sounds etc. can activate similar details in a bad cluster which, in turn, activates the attached negative physiology. Needless to say – her two-year suffering from symptoms of depression ended instantly after this session.

I mentioned before that we cannot spontaneously remember the content of a bad cluster. Does that mean that Kate could not remember that her father died when she was 13? Of course she could! But all the details of that moment in the hospital she could not remember because they were so painful at that moment she lost control and stored these particular details away in a bad cluster.

Kate is one of the many amazing people who allowed me to help her. Each time when somebody opens up to me and together we go on this incredible journey, it is a true privilege for me.

People are so much stronger than they give themselves credit for. Being a part of seeing them grow after practicing Progressive Mental Alignment, in areas of life they never thought they could, is amazing and motivating.

Everyday I get these kinds of “presents,” which makes my passion about Progressive Mental Alignment even stronger.

Give yourself the present of life and reveal the ‘hidden’ energy diamonds you have in yourself too!

In the book Desirable Power you read how and why the Progressive Mental Alignment technique works, and how you can apply it to deal with depression forever.

5 Temporary Fixes For Your Wintertime Depression Symptoms

Life can be hard at times, it seems as if there is so much to do and so little time to do it. With responsibilities like work, caring for our families, and generally making sure those around us are happy and content, we can easily forget about making sure we are happy and content ourselves.

For a lot of people, the most difficult times start once the “dark” winter-months arrived. The grey weather, the cold, rain, lack of colorful trees and flowers activates a mood that makes them feel far from happy.

When talking to others and telling them that, during these months, you experience several depression symptoms like; irritation, apathy, being sleep deprived or the need to sleep too much, headaches, a lack of energy, or just feeling blue, these symptoms can be labeled as depression symptoms. By not taking enough time for yourself will increase those terrible symptoms even more.

If you suffer from these feelings it’s totally understandable that you lack the power to put focus on anything else but your daily necessary tasks. Even doing fun things can feel like such a burden instead of entertainment. These feelings of being drained can intensify if you don’t take enough free time out for yourself!

Whether you are feeling down, or you feel like you are so wound up that you just can’t unwind, taking time out to refresh and recharge is important for both yourself and those around you.

The question is how can you start making time for yourself even when you are so busy taking care of everyone and everything else?

Lets just start with some small steps that can already make a big difference in your daily life.

Some Basic Tips to Take Time Out for Yourself

  • The first step is to realize that ‘you time’ needs to be a priority. To be at your best and help others you need to be healthy and whole.
  • Make time everyday that is just for you, even if it is just 15 minutes, by making this time an essential part of your day, you are recognizing that you deserve to take time out.
  • Choose something you love to do, whether it’s reading a book, going for a walk, or taking a hot bath. Use the time you have set aside for yourself to do some of your favorite things.
  • Go through your priorities, you know those things you feel you really have to do, evaluate what is truly important. You don’t have to be on every committee, or meet every single person’s needs all of your time. By working out what is really important you can free up time that you need to recharge again.
  • Start or pick up a hobby like going out for a great diner, listening to your favorite music or treating yourself by having a massage – or find another way to meet your own needs. Having a goal or purpose that you truly enjoy working towards can make a huge difference in your life.

Woman with her feet up listening to music on the sofa


By taking time out for you, you can ease some of the depression symptoms temporarily. And I say temporarily because the root-causes of WHY you have these depression symptoms are still untouched!

And don’t worry, I will give you the tools in one of my next blogs on how to get rid of the hidden subconscious programs that cause these depression symptoms.

But in this blog I want to give you some general tools that will soothe the negative feelings. Taking a much-needed break can help put everything back into perspective. By putting off a much-needed break you are only doing more damage to your emotional and physical well-being

Make time for yourself as a routine, you are worthy of becoming the best person you can be, start by taking valuable time out for yourself.

In the book Desirable Power you read how and why the Progressive Mental Alignment technique works, and how you can apply it to deal with depression forever.

Why You Have Mood Swings: 1 Reason And 1 Solution

A friend of mine had an older sister, we’ll call her – Veronica.  When Veronica left home for the first time, she rented a cute little apartment just outside the city, and my friend and I would go visit her quite often. We often had “painting parties”to change the colors of her house because Veronica was so (not) so decisive. She would choose so many colors for her wall and never quite had the right one in mind. But, despite of all the work it cost us, we always had a great time. We would laugh until all hours of the night, bake cookies and bond over mysterious “woman” talks. 🙂 Veronica was a good person. She was always very helpful and caring, and often tried to get the best out of everything. Not to mention, I’ll never forget the amazing cookies she baked for all of us.

But the most interesting thing about Veronica was that while she was a fun and nice person, she was (for me at that time) quite unpredictable. She had these so called “mood swings” that sent everybody hiding in another room, taking some cookies on their way because we knew we would be in there for a while. One minute she was laughing and having a wonderful time, and the other minute – volatile. She would focus on a crumb that happened to fall on the ground, or a tiny splatter of paint that managed to make its way onto the tile.  And for us, it was so confusing that one-minute she would laugh about a splash of paint that hit the tile and another time she would go BAZOOKA.

Now, I know a lot of women are familiar with these sudden changes in mood. And mood swings are for many so difficult to understand because there’s no obvious reason (to the outsiders looking in) as to what happens to change the energy in the present surroundings.

There is a reason why Veronica reacted so “unpredictably” from such a good moment to a negative outburst. It’s not that she just decided for herself: “Hey, letshave a outburst right now, because it feels so good!”  She reacted based on similarities of the same ingredients in one of her a bad clusters (think of the zoo example with Marla).

I know it can be difficult to be in the same surroundings as someone who has mood swing episodes. Although they are sporadic, I even have a hard time being around myself when I have one. 🙂 But, know that you can overcome this and even help others with just asking a few Progressive Mental Alignment questions that will snap them right out of that state.

The accepted explanations for the cause of mood swings are as follows:

–       They are a result of dealing with stressful and/or unexpected situations in daily life.

–       They are the result of an unhealthy diet, lifestyle, drug abuse, hormonal imbalance, hyperactivity and ADHD. (Veronica suffered from none of these things)

The treatment is an interesting cocktail of medicines, exercise, treats, distractions (watching TV or reading) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Which is learning to bring oneself down or up, taking a proactive approach to managing your moods and sense of self-esteem.

However, I’m here to tell you that the real cause of mood swings is 100% caused by information that is wrongly stored in your subconscious. There were different elements of that “painting party” (which are totally unique to Veronica) that activated her sudden change in mood – which is why the other people couldn’t see it coming. Because the specific ingredients of the room like the music, the colors of the paint, the body posture of the other people, the type of cookies (the list goes on), are stored somewhere in her subconscious as a bad cluster. And as soon as there are so many of these ingredients present, she starts to feel it in her body, which rapidly changes her mood.



In one of my previous blogs I explained the existence of “bad clusters” in your subconscious. In this post I won’t go into more explanation, but I’ll take you through an exercise that will help you overcome your own mood swings in just a jiffy!

The exercise we are going to do is a basic approach to the Progressive Mental Alignment technique. You can use it for any kind of negative feeling that suddenly pops-up. This could be an irritation, anger, jealousy, sadness, depression and any other nasty feeling you want to overcome as fast as possible.

This exercise is very simple, that is to say if you are not afraid of yourself. 🙂 Let’s get right into it:


  • Pay attention to WHEN exactly you felt your good mood going down the drain.
  • What did you see, hear, smell, taste or touch just seconds before that you didn’t like?
  • Don’t start “thinking” now, just go with the first moment that pops-up, from just before your mood changed?
  • Focus on that moment?
  • What specific part this moment do you not like?
  • Is it something you see, hear, smell, taste or touched?
  • VERY IMPORTANT: Don’t THINK about this but pay attention to your body! You body will tell you instantly. How? By intensifying the negative feeling you already experienced.
  • Now just focus on that particular detail in that moment. Is it something you see, hear, smell, taste or touched?
  • After you clearly feel what the specific detail is that intensifies your negative feeling, focus on that detail.
  • If you focus just on that particular detail, how does that affect your feelings? Does it get worst? Great! You are on the right track and almost there.
  • What is it exactly that you feel? Try not to describe the feeling as a label, but WHERE in your body do you feel WHAT? Pay attention to even the slightest changes in your feelings.
  • Now focus only on that particular detail that you do not like, and become fully aware of how this makes you feel.
  • Now allow your brain to spontaneously come up with any memory it wants to.
  • What is the first memory that pops-up spontaneously? (It can be anything! It doesn’t have to make sense to you at this point WHY this memory came up. Just allow at and don’t push it away!)
  • What is dominant in that memory that just popped up?
  • This memory is now our next point forward and we are going to repeat the previous process.
  • So again you ask yourself: What in this memory creates the most negative feeling in my body?
  • Once your body tells you what the moment is (remember, don’t think! Feel!), you focus on that moment and ask yourself: What in this most is that one thing that annoys me most and intensifies my negative feeling?
  • Once you found the detail of that memory that is most important to you, focus on that detail and allow the feeling that it activates until SPONTANIOUSLY a new memory pops-up.

Do you notice that focusing on this moment and detail intensifies the feelings?

This brief exercise is to help you learn how your subconscious mind uses comparison material that you are usually never aware of. Your subconscious processes between two million times more sensory data than you will ever become aware of. If it would not do this, then you would have no awareness! The “spontaneous” memories you just saw are a part of this subconscious comparison material. The feelings attached to those memories cause your specific mood swing.

Most of the people that follow this exercise instantly feel better, just because of the many connections your subconscious has made through this new insight. Some people that try this exercise might feel that their negative has gotten more intense after these first two rounds. So you’re probably saying, “Oh wow, great! Thank you Ingrid, now I feel even more miserable than before!” No, No, I wont let you hang there J. Actually, the feeling that you have right now tells you that you are on the right track and the only thing you have to do is finish it and make a home run!

And again you don’t have to do this by yourself, I will give you the right tools to do so. Now we’re getting to the core of what Progressive Mental Alignment is all about. Now, continue this exercise and keep doing what we did before, until …… a spontaneous memory pops-up that you could never consciously remember before but your body was giving you the signals all along.

And, you are so right to say that this is technically not a “memory”. It is the content of a bad cluster. This bad cluster is the root cause of your mood swing. Once this image (“memory” for lack of a better word) pops-up in your conscious brain, you will immediately feel the negative feeling wash away. You can compare it to carrying a bag of stones on your back and suddenly it is not necessary to carry that entire load anymore. Now you have the freedom to decide what you want do with your regained energy.

The amazing thing about this process is, that once the bad cluster becomes a conscious memory, this particular bad cluster will never ever cause a negative feeling ever again! The reason for that was because the content of a bad cluster was never analyzed correctly before, but because of the Progressive Mental Alignment process it now becomes a conscious memory and will be analyzed and stored correctly in your awareness. What is even more amazing is the fact that by transforming the negative energy of bad clusters you can heal many psychosomatic complaints like headaches, intestinal problems, depression, addictions, chronic fatigue and many, many other health problems.

This process can take as little, or as much time as you would like it to. But what’s important to remember is that your overall wellness (mental and physical) is 100% about the proper communication between the information stored in your subconscious you cannot “remember” and the emotions you attach to this information through your conscious awareness. As soon as the conscious brain becomes aware of this “wrongly stored” information, this information will be stored correctly within a split of a second and major medical psychosomatic problems you’ve suffered from (for years!) will immediately subside.

Wishing you tons of health and happiness,

Place the power of transformation in your own hands and heal your deepest wounds.