How to Overcome The Hurdles of Change Forever

How to Overcome The Hurdles of Change Forever

Where there is change, there is courage.

Change means doing something you’ve never done before, exploring new terrain, and throwing yourself blindly into the depths of discomfort for the chance at a new life.

Whether you’re jumping into a new career or starting a fresh relationship, change means refusing to accept things as they are and breaking open what should have been all along.

Self-evolution propels us to fulfill our greatest potential. It offers us more confidence, joy, focus, and energy. It makes the path clearer and pulls our dreams closer.

Facing Change

When you really change, you feel it. You see the difference it makes in your life and those around you. This type of transformation gives you more confidence, happiness, focus, and energy.

Do you remember a change that made a great impact in your life? Maybe you disconnected yourself from a bad influence, lost a significant amount of weight, had a conversation you put off for a long time, or attempted to become more punctual.

These types of accomplishments are not easy.

Other challenging changes might be the desire to control your temper or to better manage emotional confrontations, like disagreements between married couples.

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Imagine a woman who turns around and slams the door every time there is a disagreement with her husband. She knows this isn’t productive and doesn’t solve her issues. But every time she starts feeling the emotion rise, she feels the need to walk away and slam the door as hard as possible.

Maybe you can relate in some way to this like when you get the feeling that you want to throw something or slam a door or yell. For a moment it brings a sense of relief. After you slam the door the feelings subside a bit but flare up shortly after. It’s a roller coaster that you want to get off of- and fast!

Feeling Change

To begin to change it’s important to explore the deeper meaning behind these types of behaviors.

In the above example of the ‘door slamming’, what is it about the disagreement that makes her react the way she did? What is the emotion that she feels right before leaving? Where in her body does she feel this emotion? Is it in her stomach or chest or her head? If she is able to stop and analyze the emotion at the moment it’s happening she’ll open the door to greater understanding of her emotional ticks which are all signals from her subconscious! A big part of change has to do with understanding your own subconscious impulses and tracking their source.

It’s also important to understand why we resist change so much even though we want to change!

You first thought might be “Yes, I need to change this. Once I change this I will be happier”.

If you pay close attention, you might notice another voice in your head that pops up a short time later (sometimes seconds later) that begins with “Yes, But….” That second voice is part of your belief systems that kick-in to remind you why you can’t or shouldn’t change and why it’s better to stick with your old belief systems and old way of living. The woman in the example above arguing with her husband might think:

He should have known better

This will show him what he said was wrong

He will never change

I don’t deserve that type of disrespect

These type of beliefs justify our behavior and sabotage our desire to change. We all have our own beliefs that block change and growth in our own life. Do any of the following sound familiar to you? I remember believing some of these myself in the past!

It’s too hard to make change

I’m too busy to make time for it

Maybe this is just who I am and there is no way to change

I don’t have the necessary skills to change

I don’t have the sufficient will power

I don’t have the enough connections to the right people who can help me

I’m too late. My chance to change passed. Now I’m too old

These thoughts have more power than you know. They become the belief systems that shape your current life! If you’re attempting to change who you are in any significant way, these belief systems will greatly impact your attempt.

Ask yourself: Have you simply accepted your life as it is, accepting the emotional and physical pain as a companion to the happy parts of your life?

Think about where you are in your life and where you could be, even 1 year from now, if that pain and negativity wasn’t in the picture. By mentally keeping room for these negative and inhibiting behaviors, emotions, and, discomforts, you are seriously blocking the potential of greatness in your life.

Know that YOU are more powerful than the forces that are holding you back from progress.

All you need is the knowledge. I can help you by providing you with the tools that can help you reach your goals and make permanent changes in your life.

Embrace Permanent Tranformation

Don’t be so hard on yourself! If you haven’t made the changes you so desire in your life yet, it’s not because you aren’t strong, smart, willing, or deserving. You are all of those things and more. The amazing truth is that all you need is the right tools to help you get where you’ve always wanted to be- where you deserve to be.

Once you find and eliminate the root cause of these behaviors, they will never hold you back again.

Motivation is ever lasting and change will be permanent. You’ll understand how truly amazing you are!

Don’t struggle any longer to grow in the way you so desire. Join me in my journey to discover the truth within. It really is the key to unlocking our greatest potential and fulfilling our greatest dreams.

Learn about the most powerful subconscious forces behind all of your behaviors and beliefs!

When Giving Doesn’t Help

“When you learn, Teach. When you get, Give” – Maya Angelou

Giving is love’s greatest poem.

To give means to offer your energy, kindness, protection, comfort, time, ideas, attention, resources, and more to benefit another person or cause.  To relinquish ourselves of these most valuable treasures is a beautiful sacrifice in which your needs and desires are placed behind something or someone else’s.

It’s a powerful tool that builds bridges from separation to ultimate unity. The connection that happens between giver and receiver breeds joy, contentment, and inspiration for all parties involved.

I always had the desire to help others in any way I could. When I learned how to apply the Progressive Mental Alignment technique, giving became much more meaningful and enjoyable. I cannot even express the immense difference between the results before and after Progressive Mental Alignment when it comes to health and relationship issues. The most unexpected surprise was the amazing impact it had on my own personal growth and health.

You can learn so much from helping others when you’re doing it in a meaningful and effective way! This is one of the most important reasons I started my blog. I wanted to share my experience with as many people as possible.

It was a long and hard road in self-discovery that cost me a lot of energy, money and disappointment. Now I’m able to pass the answers and solutions on to others, saving them all those unnecessary hardships. So many people can experience more happiness and success in life if they possess the right tools.

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The Giver’s Light

Have you ever experienced the great energy of a giver at work? There is a certain light that follows them wherever they go.  Historical figures like Mother Teresa, Mahatma Gandhi, and Martin Luther King Jr. were famous for their purposeful giving. They inspired millions! But there are people in our own life who are just as impactful. They really are our life’s greatest heroes.

Who was the biggest giver in your life? Did they inspire you to give?

A friend told me: “As a child I was inspired by a teacher that went above and beyond for his students. He’d come in early to tutor students that were having trouble and stayed late to offer his advice and guidance. On weekends he appeared at sports events and at special family activities. For many, he was a father figure. He gave everything he had and in return was greatly loved and respected.” She told me that she will never forget his devotion.

That type of life is contagious and has the power to heal the world but it also has another more unexplored and often damaging impact.

If you’re a giver you recognize the type of impact your life can have on others…but could there also be a cost?

The Cost of Selflessness

While giving is a natural human act that gives us value and purpose, it can also drain us of the very energy we want to share with others.

You may be familiar with the feeling of having to pick up the phone when a friend calls or forcing yourself out of bed to attend an event that’s important to someone else. What are you neglecting in these moments? Maybe your home is disorganized or your kids are asking to spend more time with you. Perhaps you’ve missed out on events and hobbies that are particularly enjoyable and important to you.

This can make you feel like you’re being pulled from different directions and leave you feeling exhausted, guilty, and ultimately unhappy.

This type of giving can also affect your physical health and mental well-being in a huge way. If you recognize this feeling it may be a clue that a greater truth needs to be explored within you.

Ask yourself, why does giving feel like such an obligation sometimes? Why am I so exhausted all the time? Why am I often so consumed by guilt?

How can you give in a way that is impactful but also moves you to improve your own life?

Stop, Breath, and Love Yourself

The answer begins by realizing the importance of YOU! Healing yourself is the first and most important step to healing the world. It is your most important responsibility.

I’m inviting you to stop, breath, and love yourself enough to address the wounds within.

Unlock the secrets of your subconscious, reclaim your true power and identity, and experience pure joy.

I know I talk a lot about how Progressive Mental Alignment is life changing. It’s because I’ve been that person in need of help. I once thought there was no hope. I know all too well how terrible that feeling is and don’t want you feel that way any longer. Progressive Mental Alignment really does provide the tools that allow you to dig deep into the reasons behind your behaviors and feelings.

Learn more than you’ve ever learned about yourself and others.

Improve your life, and give with limitless energy.

If I can do it you can too!!

Learn how to change your life and help the ones you love the most transform!

Why Everyone Responds Differently To 1 Situation

It’s Friday night and you’ve made plans with a bunch of friends to have some drinks after work. You’re super excited about it and can’t wait till it’s 6 o’clock. This morning, you carefully selected your favorite shoes, and those new pair of pants you’ve been dying to wear – because showing your coworkers that you’re fun outside of work is an absolute necessity, so the outfit must reflect itself as such. All of this gives you such a joyful feeling.

At work you see some of your friends and talk about the new place you guys are going to visit at the end of the day. In your head, you’ve already envisioned the good things that are waiting for you. By the way, have you ever noticed that by remembering all the good things from a previous experienced event you already increased your good feeling? You have your own happy brain ‘machine’ inside you, how cool is that?

Anyway, you look at the clock and it’s almost 6, you finish your last tasks and leave together with your friend to the new, cool place to have some drinks. You laugh together and you feel the great connection and energy between all of you.

The person who gave you the address of that place should get a big thank you because it rocks. There’s nice little sitting areas with comfortable couches and chairs, dim lights and trendy music. This is exactly what you envisioned the night to be like – a true happy place.

Happy Hour

After an hour of so you hear a lot of noise coming from the left side of you. Because of all of the different noises in there it’s not clear to you what it is yet, but you feel a light tremble in your chest. As the sound comes closer to where you and your friends are, you clearly see who’s making all the noise. A drunken man stumbles towards your group and waves his hand, clenched in a fist, and he’s being obscene, cursing out loud. His face is so angry, you can tell by the frowning of his eyes and his mouth that are wide open.

You feel the tension in your body and can hardly say a word while you look around at your group of friends. Some are laughing and talking back to him. Others stand up and walk a way. One even tries to reason with the guy who is not responding at him at all. And there you are, frozen in your chair. You want to sly away but somehow you can get yourself in motion. The drunken man has no control over his movements and drops on the floor just in front of the table.

Security comes over and takes the man away.

What’s most surprising is the fact that every single one of your friends is reacting totally differently! Some are just continuing with their drinks and conversation, some are talking about what just happened and others wave it away, looking like it didn’t bother them at all. And here you are sitting in the chair with tense muscles, headache and a racing heartbeat so loud that you’re sure that if the music was turned down everyone could hear it. The great feeling you had all day, and into the night vanishes after this situation and what came in return was fear, anger and a feeling of loneliness.

My point is: The drunken man did not physically touch or hurt you, and yet you feel so miserable, how come?

The way in which we react physically depending on what we observe is completely controlled by our subconscious brain. But how does that work? Our subconscious brain is like a huge supercomputer. It follows strict rules in processing incoming and outgoing information. It processes (on average) about a million times more signals (data) then you will ever become consciously aware of. Actually, this huge subconscious process is responsible for having awareness.

Everything we have experienced in our life is stored in our subconscious ‘database’ as comparison material to identify future events that are similar. If we would not store what we experience, then we would never be able to remember or learn anything. We would have nothing to compare present observations and events to, and would have to experience every detail of life like it was a completely new experience every time. Makes sense, right?

But how our subconscious comparison material identifies the things we see, hear, taste, smell and touch is one thing. Actually, a computer can do the same analyzing process. However, there is one thing a computer cannot do, and that is feel! As a human being we can analyze too, but what makes us human is the fact that we can feel. Our subconscious does not just store the details of what we see, hear, taste, smell and touch, but also what we feel about these details.

For instance, when you thought about the time with your friends, the words ‘friends’, ‘new place’, ‘fun’, ‘Friday’ activated all kinds of details about previous experiences with other friends that were stored in your subconscious. If most of those ‘going out with friends’ details are stored with a very positive feeling, you will experience a positive feeling when you think about it. This is what gave you that boost of energy you experienced in the morning of that specific Friday. But because the ingredients of the incident with the drunken guy activated other previously stored events in your brain. These activated experiences were not as fun for you, and consequently, are loaded with negative feelings. Because these feelings are so strong, and often connected to fear, they will always overrule your positive feelings. However, if you have no negative comparison material form your past about drunken people with clenched fists, angry facial expressions, etc., your body will react totally differently. The feelings in our body cause us to create beliefs about what we observe. Our actions are based on those beliefs we hold or create, and that’s why everyone will respond differently when in the exact same situation.

In my future blogs I will address (step-by-step) how your feelings, belief systems and behavior are controlled by your subconscious. And what is even more important, how you can change negatively stored experiences into positive ones. I promise insight in how this works will change your life forever! But for now, if you’re immediately interested in how this works there’s a fantastic book in Solutions & Tools called Desirable Power that discusses the scientific background behind this information.

There is so much more to tell about our subconscious, how it works and how we can use these insights to change our health and behavior for the better. I just want to provide some insight, and let you know that whatever you experience in your body and behavior, or the reactions you express, you can change it! Deep down you know how you feel, and know when you do things that do not serve you. There are answers and solutions for that, and if you allow me, I will give you possibilities to change them for the better – and forever.

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